"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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just say "I don't hit on girls."

RoeCyris

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i was at a party a few days ago and i said "i dont hit on girls" somewhere in the middle of a conversation, it got a decent laugh and became the theme of the night for me. Someone walked up to me and reminded me of what I said as i was talking to a girl. I repeated what I said, looking the girl that i was talking to dead in the eye and at the same time untied this little tie thing in the front of her skirt. "Well what do u call that?" - I acted like i didnt know what she was talking about and kept acting like I didn't do it. She found it funny and lets just say she didnt tie it back up.

the phrase seems to be magic, especially if your feeling a little nervous like you HAVE to hook-up with a girl - which i feel sometimes at parties but i said that and all the pressure was off. And it was funny as hell too especially when i was clearly hitting on girls. Cats would look at me who heard me say it before and we would just start laughing while the girl i was talking to asked over and over again what was so funny.

then girls ended up bringing friends TO ME, i think to try and get me to hit on them. I just talked to them and did little things while talking like the example i gave before or lift their shirt up slowly in the front.

I think its almost like admiting your not smooth but if you can do it while being smooth it's funny and interesting to girls.

Give it a try, see how you can play with it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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