"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Just Do It?

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ProtoMan1

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Hey guys,

Ok, so I've known an HB blonde for a while and we get along well. We went to coffee shops, etc. Flirted, etc. Ok, its been I don't know, maybe a few months, and I feel an urge just to kiss her. haha. Yeah, I think I just want to lay it all out and just do it.

I am not sure if she is single, but she has had a bf earlier in the year but then when I'm around she says she hangs out with her girlfriends. So I'm just thinking, I hate to do this, I could get another girl to ask her if she is single OR the next time I should just lay it out all out, because I just have this vibe and feeling to just do it.

What to you all think? :D

I guess you can say I like her :p
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Coldchill

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Doc's got it right. You got to look for IOI's (indicators of interest). I wouldn't reccomend just planting one on her out of the blue. Hold her hand, squeeze her hand....does she squeeze back? If you feel already like she might want you to kiss her, ask her,"Do you want to kiss me?" Corny...maybe...but in doing so you wont be setting yourself up for rejection, you never said YOU wanted to kiss HER....hopefully this will help you out a little bit.....goodluck
 
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I agree with coldchill on looking for the indications first. And never forget the build up to a kiss. It should be more like a series of actions rather than jumping her. Put your arm round her or hold her hand - does she break away or does she seem comfortable with it? Try the kiss test - gaze into her eyes and brush her hair from her face, before moving towards her slowly.

This build up allows her plenty of opportunities back out before your lips meet, and it also increases tension.

Also, this tip might help if you find yourself getting hesitant:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=68386
 
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