"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Just chill

Dam44

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A lot of you guys get way too worked up to get a date with a chick, if a chick responds back to your text, she answers the phone, etc.

Just chill.

Women that havent earned your trust, commitment and loyalty owe you nothing and you owe them nothing in return. The main reason guys get so salty when a chick flakes, cancels or reschedules is because:
1.) They have no other options
2.) They were way too invested over what? A date?

Having no other options is obvious. I just dont understand why some dudes get so invested so quickly. Then to be let down when a woman pulls female behavior.

What are you really out? One evening of you life? Spending a little extra time getting ready for the date? You should still go grab that drink you invited her to and see what happens. At least she only potentially wasted a few hours of your time and you didnt date this chick for months or YEARS before she started her crap.
Not to mention that women have a 6th sense when it comes to noticing guys who get so interested and invested so quickly. If a chick would act like that with me before I met her, I would be weirded out too.

Set the date. If something happens, remain calm. Just say "OK". Leave it at that. Even if you have no other female options on standby you should have something else that you like doing. Shooting pool, joining up with some friends that are out, anything.
I often think isolation is man's worst friend. If you get flaked on, go out. Find new friends, hit up chicks in person.

One final thought, since we are talking about being chill- remember that you inviting her for a drink shows your intent. You dont have to keep stating it through texting. Be indifferent in your texts. Yes you'd like to hang out with her, but its ok if you dont. That is the approach you should be taking. Its mysterious and challenging in a world full of beta simps who are begging for her attention. Thats how you should be and you should not be investing in some random chick that you dont even know as you would a life long friend that is in need of help.

Think about that.

Happy hunting
What about a case where you have a date with a girl in a month's time (she's not a close friend or something, just someone you run into in school)

Do you just leave it at that? Or you keep hitting her up so she doesn't lose interest
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What about a case where you have a date with a girl in a month's time (she's not a close friend or something, just someone you run into in school)

Do you just leave it at that? Or you keep hitting her up so she doesn't lose interest
Why are you setting a date one month away?
 

Dam44

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Why are you setting a date one month away?
I didn't plan to do that. Universities here were about resuming in 4 days and I was texting with the girl and decided to ask her out. She said yes but a few days later our school decided to make the resumption in phases due to COVID 19 spike. Our phase is in a month's time.
 
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