"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Just a story I thought i'd share with y'all

hb

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There's this girl who was my first "love", she even took my virginity when I was 14. She is absolutely gorgeous, & we went 7 years without talking & re-connected about a couple of years ago. She has a kid & is living with her international model boyfriend who models for Louie V Prada etc & goes on trips to Europe during modeling season... He actually took her from me back in highschool so when we re-connected I thought it was pretty cool that I "got her back", basically random hook ups & sex while he was away... awesome payback... or so I thought...apparently she comes with extra baggage. I've come to find out that this kid abuses her in every way you could possibly think of...

Recently tho we've gone from hookin up/ sex & all that fun stuff to her telling me how fvcked up her life is & it really is, man this girl is messed up in the head real bad, but she still is gorgeous...

Well the past few times i've tried getting laid by her, she's shut me down, I know most of y'all will say that hey you've ended up in the friendship zone but the attraction is still definitely there... its just that for example tonight, she tells me its not me, its her sex drive, its DEAD. She cries infront of me & things could go well for a few minutes & then she's right back to where she started being all depressed & sh*t.

Now I know me & her are friends but I just don't want such a person in my life anymore, I feel like i'm wasting my time with her because I've become her therapist & she's just too negative for me i'm sorry to admit, I wish I could help but her issues are deeper than what any friend could try to figure out or fix. Now i'm positive what will happen is what always does happen, we'll both dissapear for a couple of weeks & then hit eachother up for our once twice or thrice a month get togethers. I just honestly don't feel like I want to have such a face in my life anymore, man the stuff that she tells me are straight up not normal....

What should I do? What would a dj do as a player & on the flipside as a PERSON, what would be in MY best interest. I feel i've worked too hard in my life to be a better person & I deserve better face in my life than this.

Your thoughts will be GREATLY appreciated
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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HariPoter13

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I believe you already answered your own question. Place your well being above everything and everyone else.
 

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HariPoter13 said:
I believe you already answered your own question. Place your well being above everything and everyone else.
What he said ;)
 

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when you go No Contact you will feel empowerd ... an awsome feeling ... you are taking control of this

start hustling new numbers
 

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haripoter i agree, kingsam what do you mean by "no contact" is this a technique?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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joe henny

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A real player? Hed leave the chick alone. Yoou got what you wanted now stop trying to be captain save a hoe
 
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