Juggling another chick while i'm in a LTR. I'm so confused.

[omgwtfm8]

I've been in a 6 month relationship with HB9.0 and I met a new chick HB10 that I really connected with and she's amazing. She's def. interested in me. We've already kissed, I've taken her out 2 times, we hung out and watched movies, and cuddled. All while i'm in still with HB9 who I still care for and have feelings for.

HB9 already broken my heart once by telling me she needed space when things were getting serious... She's a b!tch here and there.. and our relationship goes up and down.

Now I don't see my LTR girl with anybody else but me right now. But i'm looking to move on with this new girl. But I don't want to lose my LTR if things don't go through with HB10.

I had a little case of one-itis for this new chick before Imet her. I always thought to myself, "This is the only chick i'd drop HB9.0 for.."

Now i finally met her and i'm off to a good start. But she doesn't make it very clear about her interest level. She first told me to call her sometime. I started to contact her every so often to chill and what not. Then we hung out more and I hate having to do all the calling. I've seen her 4 times and she's only called me once.

My question is.. how do i keep my HB 9.0 LTR as a backup in case things don't go where I'd like them with HB10.0?

HB10.0 knows i'm seeing HB9.0. But she doesn't think we're official boyfriend/girlfriend. I've told her friends i'm not with HB9.0, i'm trying to get rid of HB9.0, etc.

Me and HB10 never talk about HB9. HB10 doesn't talk about the boyfriend that just broke her heart...(2 months ago just got out of 15 month LTR)

What is the smartest thing to do?

A. Stop talking to HB10, keep in my mind that i've already met her, "hooked up", and can call her later when my LTR really ends but in the meantime keep the LTR going strong...
B. Tell HB9 I might need some space for a while.
C. Take a risk and completely break things off with HB9 and take HB10 out some more times in hopes of a relationship with HB10
D. Keep things official with HB9, and try to start something with HB10 at the same time.

Ultimately I'd like to be in a official relationship with HB10 in the future.

If HB10 is not down for a relationship, then I still want to be with HB9 because things have been going great but i'm looking for something new at the same time.

 

[speed dawg]

First of all, stop being an AFC so much. Second, don't talk about the other chick to each of the girls. I don't encourage cheating, but hang out with both of them, and decide for yourself which one you want. Don't cheat on your girl now though. In actuality, I think, with your current AFC attitude, you will probably lose out on both. Just my opinion.

 

[omgwtfm8]

What am I doing that's AFC?

I'm trying to prevent the two of them causing conflict and loosing both...

I need more advice. When should I really consider dropping the 6 month LTR?

 

[Kings_royalty]

What am I doing that's AFC?

I'm trying to prevent the two of them causing conflict and loosing both...

I need more advice. When should I really consider dropping the 6 month LTR?

Alright bro, let's dive into this...

HB9 already broken my heart once by telling me she needed space when things were getting serious... She's a b!tch here and there..

She broke YOUR heart? Sounds like you were into her more than she was into you. There is nothing wrong with being into a girl, but don't let them KNOW it. You need to control your emotions. That is where guys screw up all the time. Never let them know what you are really feeling. You need to be more mysterious, make them wonder what your intentions are. And she's a b*tch here and there? Why do you put up with that? You should have set her a$$ straight the first time she started to act up bro. A girl will walk all over you if you let her and she will end up resenting you because you let her do it.

You should of kicked her to the curb a LONG time ago.

I had a little case of one-itis for this new chick before Imet her. I always thought to myself, "This is the only chick i'd drop HB9.0 for.." Then we hung out more and I hate having to do all the calling. I've seen her 4 times and she's only called me once


This is how you are being AFC bro. You are already up this girls a$$ from what I can tell. Don't be surprised if she calls you trying to break things off.

What you need to do is step back and relax a little. Don't worry about loosing one of them, if not both...who cares? If you have what it takes to land an HB9 or HB10, then you are already ahead of the game.

Stop acting needy or you will screw it up. Don't call her anymore, disappear for a while. Get out there and meet other girls, forget the HB10 for a while and tell the HB9 to f*ck off (she will only bring you more headaches at this point).

Just my 2 cents.

 

[skip2mylou781]

just juggle them both, and start seeing OTHER girls in addition to those two just in case

its how a true pimp does after all, the more options the better!

 

[omgwtfm8]

just juggle them both, and start seeing OTHER girls in addition to those two just in case

its how a true pimp does after all, the more options the better!

I've been doing that.. and small town rumors are floating around.. What do i do when HB9 asks about HB10? She already called me crying and upset and paranoid... I didn't know what to do... so i just told her to, "Quit jumping to conclusions, You have nothing to worry about, I'm allowed to meet people"

Now I hooked up with HB10 and what happends if HB9 here's some rumors? Deny it all? How does a DJ deal with rumors?

 

[Kings_royalty]

She already called me crying and upset and paranoid...

Good, now you have control of the situation. Don't fall for those tears though, girls will use them to manipulate you, they are experts at it. I would back off from 'both' girls for the time being and meet 'more people'.

HB9 will be up your a$$ now that she thinks someone else wants you, your 'value' just went up, take advantage of it.

 

[omgwtfm8]

She already called me crying and upset and paranoid...

Good, now you have control of the situation. Don't fall for those tears though, girls will use them to manipulate you, they are experts at it. I would back off from 'both' girls for the time being and meet 'more people'.

HB9 will be up your a$$ now that she thinks someone else wants you, your 'value' just went up, take advantage of it.

Why back up both girls? HB10 likes me, she doesn't care about HB9. She knows i'm all about her. I'm about to just back away from HB9.

 

[Ratisson]

i'd get rid of HB9 if ur relationship is rocky. So hold on to her until u know that u own HB10

 

[omgwtfm8]

i'd get rid of HB9 if ur relationship is rocky. So hold on to her until u know that u own HB10

That's how I feel. I need tips/advice though on how to keep them two from butting heads and how to deal with rumors...