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So this is the first time I have started trying out DJ strategies on girls, so I am going to write down what I'm doing. Its not that exciting compared to other peoples probably, but I feel like writing it.:D

So there is this girl on my intramural soccer team who I have said hi to at lunch because she works in dining services. Before tonight I had just been saying general stuff to her, I don't really remember. But I noticed she was making a specially effort to say I was playing well. Tonight I set next to her on the sideline and asked her about her classes. She told me some stuff about them and then asked me about mine, but I just said they were OK and completely switched the conversation back to her by asking her about her major (something I learned to do at this site). She told me and asked me mine, but in my answer I switched it back to her again. Mine is IA and I said I had no idea what I wanted to do with it, and that unlike science majors the application was more difficult (more jokingly though).

We talked more, and then cheered together for our team, talking about what was going on a little. She started chewing on her fingers and I jokingly pointed it out, but I should have done better by saying something like "Do your fingers taste good" or something... Oh well, next time.

Then when we were walking back she ended up walking next to me, and I didn't try to make it happen like that. I'm not sure if she did or not but it doesn't seem that unlikely. So anyway I found out that she spent her high school time in Lebanon (missionary family)! That is really cool because I am interested in other countries so I can talk about that, plus I lived with my family in another country so I can relate.

I think I didn't do that bad showing interest in her, but I have to tease her more. I guess I should soon start trying to devote less attention to her so I don't seem desperate. Perhaps I can try to talk to another girl on the team or something.

Also, there is this girl in my Spanish class who I reaaaaaally like but I am not doing well with her. I had lunch with her twice but didn't do any of this DJ stuff, I think I kind of messed up. Also, I don't talk with her every class so it would seem weird to suddenly start hitting on her DJ style in class. Also she has a freind who she talks to in Spanish all the time in the class. I don't know if I am going to be able to do anything in regards to her, but if I do I will write it.
 

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Cool, it's nice to hear stories of people actually getting out there making changes in their lives.

You look like you spotted it, but I'd just point out that you should avoid the common pattern of fixating youself on one girl and trying to win her over exclusively before giving up and moving onto the next.

You should have two or three main focuses and every other girl is a potential replacement.
 

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Thank you for your comment assasin.

Lets see, to continue the story... The other day I wanted to get dinner with this other girl I like, so I went up to her room. She was on the phone, and before I started reading this site I probably would have just chickened out. Instead, I got her attention...
Her: (Looks up) Hi?
Me: Hi, I want to talk to you, can you come down to my room after you get done (or something like that).
I definately would not have asserted myself like that without confidence.

She came down and I asked her if she wanted to go to dinner. She said she couldn't but she thought I had something important to talk to her about because of what I said.
I said: Oh, yeah, and what is the meaning of life? She laughed and we talked a little bit. Later I asked her if she had thought of the meaning of life and she said, "I didn't think you were serious." Obviously I wasn't, is this girl stupid or was I looking too serious?

Sorry this is kind of boring so far, but hopefully it will get better because over the summer I want to try some cold approaches. Right now I really can't because my school is too small.
 

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Continuing the story...

I am having trouble with the girl on my soccer team. I am always doing AFC things like complimenting her on how well she played, over the top. I can't really figure out what to do next.

Also, I was at a train station and had nothing to do for some time, and I decided to use the time to walk up to girls and talk to them. I was thinking it was going to be easier, but the first girl I waited like 15 minutes before deciding to go over. I started to go, but then I saw some guy come to talk to her who was obviously her boyfriend. I'm glad I didn't persue that one. Then I went over to this other girl and sat next to her, saying I liked her purse (it looked handmade), and I discovered she was French and talked to her about where she lived. Her train came though and she had to leave quickly.
 
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