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"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

Paintballguy

Master Don Juan

Sep 13, 2004

Yep thats right, start bowling and join a league. Make sure you join a mixed league and most will have quiet a few women.

For example, I started one of my new league's today and I already got myself a nice HB prospect. She was EC'ing me the whole time so I'm gonna have a nice chit-chat with her next week.

But, don't start bowling just for women. Its a very fun sport and I have been bowling since I was 12 or 13. Also, it helps me get through the work week by having something to do on the weekdays.

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.