Jealous girl seeking advice

[spider_007]

alright, lets say you had a boat, and two guys you hang out with before wanted to meet up with you and go boating, would you see it as them trying to gang you? (FORGET the fact that every guy wants to nail evey gurl).

to me it sounds puirty inocent. If there was no reason for them to call him (or otherway around) then i'd be little worried.

#2 there was no reason for him to bring it up. What's the guy gona say; "oh hun i just want to run it buy you, these two gurls gave me their numbers because they wanted to 'ride my boat'."

 

[Desdinova]

I keep picturing all these women throwing themselves at him, but I'm not gonna say anything. Just be cool, right, like it ain't no thang?

You can't help it if he's attractive. He'll make his decision. If his decision is to be faithful to you, you have nothing to worry about.

Judging by your pic, you probably have nothing to worry about

 

[marianne]

I still get little pangs of worry about this weekend though. I can't prevent anything from happening, and realistically I don't think anything bad will happen, but how do I stop fretting about it?

 

[WhAcKeD!]

There is one thing I would never do if I was a girl on the internet:

Post a picture of myself.

 

[marianne]

aw thanks desdinova again, just read the last reply. You've been very helpful!

 

[marianne]

you're right spider girls often hand out their number with no intention of banging the recipient. I guess I see him as an irresistable adonis, not all girls do though, according to him.

 

[Desdinova]

but how do I stop fretting about it?

Just remember that if he ever fvcks up, you'll be able to move on with your life. You've probably had to do it before, and you'll be able to do it again.

Until the time comes for your relationship to end, enjoy it!

 

[marianne]

thats true. I've always wanted to go to Paris, that'll be my reward if this doesn't work out.

 

[marianne]

Thanks everybody! Most of you have been surprisingly helpful! I had my doubts when I was asked to post my pic, but this worked out quite well. I have to say oftentimes it's MUCH easier to get a straight answer from a guy. I've always found men much easier to talk to, and judging by the other threads I'm sure you all agree. I apologize for the occasionally flaky behaviour of my fellow females, just know that when they act weird it's often because they feel insecure.

 

[far from average]

Forgive the horny newbies on the site. Many of them are still trying to land a woman.

Now, now, let's not be catty.

My advice:

Try to be reasonable with him and with yourself. You don't want to be the girl that freaks out when her boyfriend says he is going to his friend's bachelor party, but then again just blithely letting him do whatever he wants when you aren't comfortable with it is doing yourself a disservice and asking for trouble. Figure out what your boundaries are, look at whether or not they're reasonable, and then set them with your boyfriend.

I would give the same advice to a friend, an ex, a sister, whatever, regardless of their "hb rating."

 

[marianne]

ha ha! catty. That's what shakespeare said : sigh not so, but let him go, and be you blithe and bonny"

well, since you brought it up, he doesn't go to strip clubs, but the bachelor party is a possibilty in the future. He knows I don't like the idea of another woman's boobs in his face. I don't see that as unreasonable, but I wouldn't try to prevent him from going because I don't want to restrict him. But he knows how I feel about it. He doesn't really like aggressive strippers anyways he's kinda shy. ANYWAYS, is there such a thing as stripper-free bachelor parties?

 

[Jariel]

I'd say you you need to base your judgement on his character. If he's the type to flirt with girls, go clubbing with the lads, watch porn and talk about other women, he is a lot more likely to cheat on you than a guy who has cut contact with his ex-s, expresses his feelings for you and feels proud to be with you.

Unfortunately, once you start mind games, trying to make him feel jealous etc, you may stir up trouble for yourself. If my girlfriend started doing that with me, I would do the same in retaliation and who knows where it would end. However, instead she actually told me about some of the jealousy issues she has, how she feels uncomfortable with me hanging with female friends and ex-s, and I've respected her wishes on the condition that she does the same.

If he's a reasonable guy and cares about you, then you should be ok to talk to him.

 

[marianne]

I think you're right Jariel. i've totally avoided mind games for that very reason, he would absoloutely retaliate. I think one of the reasons I was attracted to him in the first place was that he wasn't a playboy. He's Sort of the strong silent type, kinda shy. Christ he told me he had to drink a mickey of rum before he had the courage to ask me out. So he's more the latter type that you described. Phew! Thanks thats what I needed to hear.

 

[ntssv]

I'd say you you need to base your judgement on his character. If he's the type to flirt with girls, go clubbing with the lads, watch porn and talk about other women, he is a lot more likely to cheat on you than a guy who has cut contact with his ex-s, expresses his feelings for you and feels proud to be with you.

Unfortunately, once you start mind games, trying to make him feel jealous etc, you may stir up trouble for yourself. If my girlfriend started doing that with me, I would do the same in retaliation and who knows where it would end. However, instead she actually told me about some of the jealousy issues she has, how she feels uncomfortable with me hanging with female friends and ex-s, and I've respected her wishes on the condition that she does the same.

If he's a reasonable guy and cares about you, then you should be ok to talk to him.

Jariel,

Don't know what it is, but your fvckin posts make sense to me. That was good advice.

 

[far from average]

ha ha! catty. That's what shakespeare said : sigh not so, but let him go, and be you blithe and bonny"

well, since you brought it up, he doesn't go to strip clubs, but the bachelor party is a possibilty in the future. He knows I don't like the idea of another woman's boobs in his face. I don't see that as unreasonable, but I wouldn't try to prevent him from going because I don't want to restrict him. But he knows how I feel about it. He doesn't really like aggressive strippers anyways he's kinda shy. ANYWAYS, is there such a thing as stripper-free bachelor parties?

There are such things as stripper free bachelor parties, to answer your question. Some guys just do a bar night, or outdoor activities like a fishing trip. If you are ok with him going as long as he doesn't fool around with the strippers, say that. Those are your boundaries, set them.

Christ he told me he had to drink a mickey of rum before he had the courage to ask me out. So he's more the latter type that you described. Phew! Thanks thats what I needed to hear.

A mickey of rum? Where are you from, anyway?

 

[marianne]

ha ha! Canada. I thought that might confuse people. I don't know what you call them here.
that's perfect! He LOVES camping. We go like every weekend. He'd love to do that for a bachelor party. Try and suggest it to him if any of his friends get hitched too. Bwa ha ha

 

[far from average]

Er, don't be that girl. "Hey guys, why don't you try camping."

 

[Silverback82]

what is the deal with chicks's coming here for advice?

 

[I love Hyori Lee]

I am a slightly jealous girlfriend, I read an article on this website that said jealous men should play it cool and not attempt to restrict their girlfriends behaviour, ie: lunch with ex, or male strip club, and she would respect him. Would you say this approach can work in the reverse? Or will "letting" my boyfriend go to strip clubs and lunch with past flames just give him opportunities that he can't resist?[/COL:nervous: OR]

My advice.

Dump him and sleep with me!!!

God, I love those eyes. They're very, very sexy eyes.

Ha ha.