I've met my match....a DJ girl. Need to change strategy?

[shock]

I recently met this girl at my buddys house. She came off a bi shy, but after awhile came out of her shell a bit. I played the not-so-interested, but flirtatious ****y/funny card. Worked great. She actually ended up putting her number in my phone without me even knowng. Sweet, right?

Well few days later we ended up texting. I soon came to realize the quiet girl I met at the party was an illusion. This girl is about as witty/funny as I am. She's brutally honest, confident, and has no problem rebuttleing (and quite well actually) any neg hit I give her. Girl has game.

We've hung out twice since. Both dates fun. Got the kiss on the 2nd.

This is a first for me. Has me a bit off guard. She's interested, but is distant. Always has other stuff going on, keeps quiet about stuff etc etc. Of course this goes to show what a challnge can do to someone's interest level. Mine is definately high. And I've noticed my confidence slipping a bit, and i'm compensting for it wih AFC behavior.

I'd say she likes me, and is into me. She's just a bit protecive and cautious of guys. For advice sake, assume this is true. Where do I go from here? I like this girl, but we both can't be stubborn and distant. Something's gotta break. I guess my normal DJ habits arent producing results I'm used to getting. But at the same time I dont want to be her every day nice guy that cant take the heat. But is it also possible that we bring out that side in one another? Afraid to be vulnerable, so we're both putting up fronts based on how we expect the other person to act or say??

thanks guys

 

[mb121]

You've got to f*cking break her in half.

 

[shock]

haha, are you speaking metaphorically?

 

[mb121]

I love girls like these, wow. Yes break her in half metaphorically.

 

[bassfiend86]

I recently met this girl at my buddys house. She came off a bi shy, but after awhile came out of her shell a bit. I played the not-so-interested, but flirtatious ****y/funny card. Worked great. She actually ended up putting her number in my phone without me even knowng. Sweet, right?

Well few days later we ended up texting. I soon came to realize the quiet girl I met at the party was an illusion. This girl is about as witty/funny as I am. She's brutally honest, confident, and has no problem rebuttleing (and quite well actually) any neg hit I give her. Girl has game.

We've hung out twice since. Both dates fun. Got the kiss on the 2nd.

This is a first for me. Has me a bit off guard. She's interested, but is distant. Always has other stuff going on, keeps quiet about stuff etc etc. Of course this goes to show what a challnge can do to someone's interest level. Mine is definately high. And I've noticed my confidence slipping a bit, and i'm compensting for it wih AFC behavior.

I'd say she likes me, and is into me. She's just a bit protecive and cautious of guys. For advice sake, assume this is true. Where do I go from here? I like this girl, but we both can't be stubborn and distant. Something's gotta break. I guess my normal DJ habits arent producing results I'm used to getting. But at the same time I dont want to be her every day nice guy that cant take the heat. But is it also possible that we bring out that side in one another? Afraid to be vulnerable, so we're both putting up fronts based on how we expect the other person to act or say??

thanks guys

I'm kind of in the same situation. this is with a girl that is in my class. Like one day she'll flirt with me and the next she'll act less interested. When she does this i do it too. This confuses me and makes me not want to ask her out. But i thought to myself that if we keep acting like this we'll never know if you will end up doing something or not. so i think that you should ask her out again because it looks like shes not going to do it. All i could say is don't tell her that you like her if you want to be with her.