"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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it's a damn catch 22 getting to new york city

btownbuck2012

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So I just finished up an internship in Washington, DC which has made my resume look very impressive.

I've been sending out resumes to companies in NYC, and the ones who have responded always ask me the same thing: "Are you currently in the NY area or moving to the area?".

And I always respond with the following: "I'm not currently in the area, but if you were to offer me a job I'd definitely move to the area". That's when, not unlike most chicks i deal with, they go cold and drop off the face of the earth.

I've been to New York City once to interview and it's unlike anything I've ever seen before. I've got to figure out someway to get out there. Perhaps another internship but the REAL problem is just finding a place to stay.

I need a job to get out to NY but I can't get a job offer unless I'm currently living in the area. God damn the economy sucks. And its costs a sh!t ton of money to interview. I've currently got a company in Pittsburgh that wants to interview me but I can't really afford to drive to and from all the way from Indiana to Interview.

F.UCK.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ArcBound

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I don't know why a company would turn you away if you offered to move there. That doesn't make any sense.

But if you are currently located in D.C. there is a $15-20 one way trip to new york, round trip being $30-40. Housing will be your hardest thing in NYC because a lot of real estate in Manhattan is pricey, you will most likely have to get a place in Queens or Brooklyn and commute via train.
 

Bible_Belt

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I would guess that NYC companies have learned that when they extend offers to people farther away, the applicant will eventually either decline when they discover the cost of living, or even worse, ask for the employer to help with the cost.
 

Reyaj

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NYC is the most over-rated city in the world. Mass populated, dirty, stuck up chicks, dirty, expensive, dirty... dirty...

West Coast is where you want to be my man
 

BMX

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Reyaj said:
NYC is the most over-rated city in the world. Mass populated, dirty, stuck up chicks, dirty, expensive, dirty... dirty...

West Coast is where you want to be my man
That was awesome. Minus the whole west coast rant.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Leporello

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Just find a friend in NYC who's willing to let you put their address on your resume until you get your own place.

Dude, I applied to 200+ jobs here and got 25 interviews before actually getting a single job offer. You just gotta keep trying.
 

Warrior74

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Leporello said:
Just find a friend in NYC who's willing to let you put their address on your resume until you get your own place.

Dude, I applied to 200+ jobs here and got 25 interviews before actually getting a single job offer. You just gotta keep trying.
This. Get you a pre paid cell phone with area code and an address in the city and lie your ass off. No impromptu meetings and you're golden.
 
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