"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is woman being DIVORCED a RED FLAG?

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I agree with all others who said "Why is she divorced?" Once you get to a certain level of figuring women out you will quickly be able to get a feel for what really happened in her divorced based on what she says. Example:

This | means | That

- He abused me | means | He didn't put up with my cr@p

- He didn't pay attention to me | means | I am never happy no matter what OR I was so much of a b|tch he didn't want to be around me

- We grew apart | means | I wasn't attracted to him anymore and/or I was fvcking another man(men)

- I was scared of him | means | He made my vag so went they issued a flood warning

- He never had time for me | means | He worked hard to support me and I didn't appreciate it OR He had other interests other than me and I was insecure

And on.. and on.. and on..


I don't think it's bad for a man to date a divorced woman, but just proceed with extra caution, understand the whole scenario all 360 degrees, and jump ship long before you get thrown overboard.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Baby rabies,wallet seeking mode............

A divorced woman is a lot of the things described here and then some. I've got many friends, most of whom are divorced, none of whom assume any responsibility for it because they're "all" good women and "none" of them really did anything wrong except maybe giving the wrong man a chance.

It's never about how they were selfish, impulsive, and unrealistic/idealistic. It's always the ex's fault, or because of circumstances, or something that was totally out of their control and all they want is to be loved and "OMYGAWD I'm a woman excuse me for needing things and having feelings."

And read logicallefty post carefully.
 

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logicallefty said:
I agree with all others who said "Why is she divorced?" Once you get to a certain level of figuring women out you will quickly be able to get a feel for what really happened in her divorced based on what she says. Example:

This | means | That

- He abused me | means | He didn't put up with my cr@p

- He didn't pay attention to me | means | I am never happy no matter what OR I was so much of a b|tch he didn't want to be around me

- We grew apart | means | I wasn't attracted to him anymore and/or I was fvcking another man(men)

- I was scared of him | means | He made my vag so went they issued a flood warning

- He never had time for me | means | He worked hard to support me and I didn't appreciate it OR He had other interests other than me and I was insecure

And on.. and on.. and on..


I don't think it's bad for a man to date a divorced woman, but just proceed with extra caution, understand the whole scenario all 360 degrees, and jump ship long before you get thrown overboard.
+1. Repped. Nailed it. If she was so perfect, why are they divorced? I'd love to hear the guy's side of the story.

Divorce is a pretty big deal. You are encouraged to try to work things out for better or for worse. It's a legal agreement, a massive financial investment and the church is also involved (not that any of these things matter but these factors are not in play when you are merely dating.) The fact that he or she threw the towel in means something went VERY wrong here.

Lastly, how long were they married? If they were only married for two to three years I would proceed with extreme caution. It means that the wheels came off immediately after marriage.
 

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way2smart said:
Okay, so I am currently dating a girl 26 y.o
She is 8.5, works out regularly, holds a PhD and is a professor at a state university. Plus her interest level is in the stratosphere.

She is very polite and decorous and doesn't give that "slutty" vibe that some girls do.

However she is divorced but doesn't have any kids.

I am considering her as a potential girlfriend material, however I am not sure if her being divorced is a red flag.

I remember, some more experienced DJ say not to consider divorced women as gf material.
What do you guys think?
depends why she got divorced. Many professors get divorced because of lack of time to spend with significant other. My one professor went to grad school and her ex-husband broke up with her because of not spending any time together.

Personally, I am attracted to intelligence and would be very interested to meet a girl like that.

- comic_relief
 

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logicallefty said:
I agree with all others who said "Why is she divorced?" Once you get to a certain level of figuring women out you will quickly be able to get a feel for what really happened in her divorced based on what she says. Example:

This | means | That

- He abused me | means | He didn't put up with my cr@p

- He didn't pay attention to me | means | I am never happy no matter what OR I was so much of a b|tch he didn't want to be around me

- We grew apart | means | I wasn't attracted to him anymore and/or I was fvcking another man(men)


- I was scared of him | means | He made my vag so went they issued a flood warning

- He never had time for me | means | He worked hard to support me and I didn't appreciate it OR He had other interests other than me and I was insecure

And on.. and on.. and on..


I don't think it's bad for a man to date a divorced woman, but just proceed with extra caution, understand the whole scenario all 360 degrees, and jump ship long before you get thrown overboard.
Must spread some rep around before dropping it off at the Lefty Abode
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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