Is this salvageable?

[Nitro]

In the beginning of July I was in public with a few friends and as we were leaving this really cute girl and her friend apparently talked to one of my friends and said she liked me etc. I was sceptical at first since I'm no stud but I saw her again and mustered up the courage to briefly say hello. As I left I heard one of them saying I was "cute" which made me think, ok I may have a chance. I luckily ran into her a final time but this was even more brief as our two groups were walking in opposite directions but I somehow managed to get her phone number. From there I texted her occasionally and tried inviting her to meet up twice but both times she declined saying she was busy. I even tried calling her one time but she didn't pick up. My natural reaction was to back off incase I was going too fast but now I'm the only one initiating any texting and her replies are kind of cold. At this point I'm worried I've dropped the ball somehow before even getting a chance to really talk to her. It's very unlikely I'll see her again in public so texting is the only thing I can do right now but it hasn't done me any good.

I'm really inexperienced when it comes to this sort of thing so any advice would be great.

 

[fuko2007]

I will be honest with you man, i've dont this before many years ago. Its pretty much a dead issue now, unless she contacts you. You blew it with the multiple texts and phone call as ''SOON'' as you got her number. She probabially saw it as needy or clingy. The best way to handle that would have been either wait a few hours and text her or just send her a text say This is **** hit me up sometime. Anything along those lines works for me and they normally respond with a hey, whats up? or something like that. But sorry bro just leave it alone as of now and see if she texts you.

 

[Purefilth]

What Fuko2007 said now read this:

One thing I find works very well in this situation. Before you do anything STOP and THINK. Turn the tables and think what it would mean to you if a girl you just met called you 10 times a day. How would you feel if she insisted on buying everything, opening doors for you, wanting to be with you every minute. How would you feel if some average girl told you she loved you after the first date?

That right, you'd think PSYCHO! or BUNNY BOILER right? It would make you want to run away. You would think you have got someone way below your station. You'd wonder what was wrong with her.

Well guys, that’s EXACTLY what she thinks of you when you do these things.

Do yourself a favour and TURN THE TABLES when you’re thinking about doing something for her. Think how you would feel if some random girl did that for you. Would you be impressed? Probably not. In fact it would make you devalue her. You would think she is cheap and desperate wouldn't you?

Now am I right that this is UNATTRACTIVE behaviour?

Ok, now we have cleared that up lets move on to something more interesting.

So you’ve met this girl, you think she’s ok, but then you get that all too familiar ‘I’m falling for her’, ‘I need to be with her’, ‘She’s exactly what I’m looking for’ feeling. STOP this nonsense, wake up and grow up. Lean back and take it easy. Concentrate on how she is being with you. Don’t call, be patient and wait. When she calls cut the conversation short, ‘Sorry babes, the boys have just turned up, I have to go’. If she asks you on a date agree but make sure the first three days she suggests you’re busy with your mates or something. Be cool, lean back. Turn the tables.

Read the posts in this group and ask yourself this. What is it that's turning these guys from liking a girl into being infatuated by them?

That’s right, all of the girls mentioned showed a little interest and then backed off, didn’t return calls, sent very mixed signals. It makes you want them more when you don’t think you can have them doesn’t it. It’s even worse when you think you might have them then they pull away. It makes you feel like your not good enough doesn't it. Well my friend you are and in most cases your better. DON'T EVER FORGET THAT.

Now do as I say and turn the tables. Be elusive, challenging, hard to get hold of, socially busy. I promise you, she will become infatuated with you. You will retain the power, you will call the shots and yes my friend she will do anything you want!

 

[Cremasta]

Your natural reaction was right, but unfortunately you ignored it.
Delete her phone number and forget her.

There's the lesson for new players:
If you can't get a girl to meet you after contacting her twice (whether she responds to those contacts or not), just stop.

 

[Nitro]

Wow, that sucks.. Anyway I appreciate the feedback. Though in this particular situation I really can't see how I could have played it much differently (A part from being "more elusive" though I don't think my texting was THAT frequent but point taken) I mean we don't have any mutual friends and if I didn't ask for her number like fuko2007 said I probably wouldn't have seen or heard from her again.

What a headache... Thanks again.

 

[DonGorgon]

if things go bad by her choice they are not salvageable.. you must always drop her before she drops you cause women only drop men that they no longer want to fvck