"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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is this possible???

golf299

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is it possible for a girl to not want to go out with you--by that i mean, she hasn't really considered it because she has no idea of your interest in her. but as soon as you show interest by asking her out, her mindset changes and she can now see you as someone she would date??

i know it's kind of an abstract question, but any insight would be helpful. thanks!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A great business man can knock on your door, show you the most useless piece of crap in the world that you would never have thought much of and make you go crazy over it and invest in it.


P.S. I'm not implying that you're a useless piece of crap.
 

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Originally posted by golf299
i know it's kind of an abstract question, but any insight would be helpful. thanks!
It's an abstract question, but you're asking it because of a concrete series of events. What are you REALLY asking us here?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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More info, as requested...

the girl i'm referring to recently got out of a relationship. as long as i've known her (5months) she was in the relationship until about a month ago. we go to school together. she admittedly isn't ready for a relationship right now.

i'm pretty sure that she never thought of me as bf material because she had a boyfriend almost the whole time i've known her. but now she's a free bird.

i've been uping the kino with her pretty steadily and she seems comfortable with it.

so the question is: is it possible for her to have not thought about me like that before, but when i ask her out (after xmas break) her mindset could completely change?
 

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anyone have some input??
 

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she admittedly isn't ready for a relationship right now.
This may be the case, but she probably still wants a good lay. She's looking to rebound now.

is it possible for her to have not thought about me like that before, but when i ask her out (after xmas break) her mindset could completely change?
Right now, she needs a way to get laid. She's not GF material right now. If you want a fvcking relationship with her, wait about a year before you do anything.
 

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OMG, all this advice makes me sick...

Tell her that in preparation for her next relationship, she will need a warm up.....just to insure she doesnt get rusty and make mistakes....so invite her on a predate.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i was thinking of just asking her out on a date when we both get back from break... it should give her some more time to get over the last relationship.

i'm just going to be persistance with respect to the kino progression, c&f, ect....then ask her on a date and see how she responds...

in regards to other posts: she is not just looking for a lay right now. she is not that kind of girl, and that's the truth.

but with respect to my original question: is it possible for a girl to not want to go out with you--by that i mean, she hasn't really considered it because she has no idea of your interest in her. but as soon as you show interest by asking her out, her mindset changes and she can now see you as someone she would date??
 
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Originally posted by golf299
i was thinking of just asking her out on a date when we both get back from break... it should give her some more time to get over the last relationship.

i'm just going to be persistance with respect to the kino progression, c&f, ect....then ask her on a date and see how she responds...

in regards to other posts: she is not just looking for a lay right now. she is not that kind of girl, and that's the truth.

but with respect to my original question: is it possible for a girl to not want to go out with you--by that i mean, she hasn't really considered it because she has no idea of your interest in her. but as soon as you show interest by asking her out, her mindset changes and she can now see you as someone she would date??
shell probably have taken the **** 13 times before next year u ask her.
 

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Women are triggered by emotions. There's only two ways in which you will generate interest

1) She thinks your hot

2) You've sparked her emotions, and she thinks your worth a shot.


Chances are, if she's seen you around and/or you have small chit chat with her, she'll think of you as nothing else. But as soon as she realizes you are hitting on her, she will make up her decision then. On the other hand, many women make their mind up on whether they think you'd be a worthy mate within the first few minutes of meeting you.


Good luck
 
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