is this cheating? do i tell her?

[cactus3178]

IMO, a kiss is cheating just as much as sex is. Would you consider it to be cheating if your g/f did the same to you?

Personally if I was in your shoes, I'd tell my g/f what happened. It may sound like suicide, but it's honest and it's the right thing to do. Like it was mentioned above, relationships are based on trust.

If you don't care about this girl and your morals won't bother you, don't say ****. If you care about her and you want a relationship longer than a little while, you'd better own your actions.

God forbid she'll ever find out from a third party, because then your ****ed, big time.

 

[NRM]

Well, I have a few reasons as to why not to tell her.

1) If she pulled this shit on you, but is feeling the way about you the way that you're feeling right now, you don't need to know. She still loves you strongly and it was an accident that she wouldn't let happen again.

2) You didn't mean to. You don't even remember if she kissed you or you kissed her. It was a simple accident. As long as it doesn't get brought up again, it should pass. If it isn't going to help the relationship (ie: increase trust, make her want you more) don't bother.

3) You were drunk. Stuff happens when you're drunk. If you were fully aware, it wouldn't have happened.

 

[quest]

thanks guys. the majority told me exactly what i want to hear..

but i know if she somehow finds out i'm ****ed..... bad..

only way she'll find out is if she comes to this site.. nah if the girl i kissed tells others (she's pretty keen on me so she might ) but i think i'll get off scott free, i'll avoid the clubs which i may possibly see the girl who kissed me (thats my story) and if i run into her, deny deny deny.

but thanks very much for your help!