"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is this a sh!t test or what?!

montybrown

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The girl I'm talking to was telling me how she hasn't had good sex in a while (even though we had sex last week) and I was like "Oh so I suck. Alright." and then she always tells me how other guys are attractive. She never tells me I'm attractive or anything. We were talking while she was at the mall and she would always say stupid sh!t like "This guy is so hot." and "This guy was just checking me out, he smiled at me but I brushed him off"
Later in the night when she was at home, She ended up giving the phone to her younger sister and she was asking me questions and wanted to get to know me. She asked if I had a myspace and if she could be my friend. I kept telling her give the phone back to her older sister but then she's saying how she isn't taking the phone and she's "myspacing" right now. Then she ended up saying how another guy loves her and she still loves her ex. I ended up hanging up.

When the girl I want to be with called me back she told me that "You know she was only joking right" I told her I know. Then she tells me that she was bored and is going to her friends house. So she went to a guy's house and was talking to me on the phone, I could hear a guy in the background, I asked who else was there and she said It's just her and him. She then said that she would call me back when she's going home. (This was about 11pm) then she ended up calling me once at 4pm but I was asleep. When I woke up I had a voice mail though and it was just he rambling and saying how I'm either out cold or out partying. She's on her period so I don't think she fvcked him or anything. But what should I do to find out what the hell is going on?
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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trojanman88

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montybrown said:
The girl I'm talking to was telling me how she hasn't had good sex in a while (even though we had sex last week) and I was like "Oh so I suck. Alright." and then she always tells me how other guys are attractive. She never tells me I'm attractive or anything.
lol you end up sounding like a female girly man lol. kiddin
 

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Sounds to me like shes playing games. Your best bet is to play it off like you dont care.. dont ask questions about what she did last night. Asking questions like "who are you with" sound needy and gives her a feeling of power over you. As far as the comments about sex, same thing.. play it off.. tell her that maybe shes doing it wrong.

Just my opinion.
 

Bible_Belt

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Words mean nothing. If she is with you, then she wants you. Have sex with her, or find it elsewhere and ignore her if she rejects you. You should be off with other women when she is off with other guys.
 
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