Is there a way to reframe with this b1tch?

[aix237]

Broke up with this girl a couple of days ago. she is an AW, i know big mistake. We dated for like a month and i knew for like 6 or 7 months total. When we broke up i kind of saw it coming but she decided to do it first which p1ssed me off cause i know I am way better then anything she has had atleast from what I have seen. I actually said this to her also.

The day we broke up I kind of got soft called her and tried to talk to work things out then i said fvck it.

The next day i texted and asked if she was alright that turned into a 5 hour long texting session. she said im a great guy and she has nothing bad to say. I said wtf then your logic is fvcked up etc. then i went on to say dont come say hi to me, u used me etc. I then said said dont come around my friends. she got p1ssed at that cause all of her friends are people i introduced her too. i said you fvck with me i fvck with you. she got p1ssed, i called her later and said sorry i cant be like this to you i still ike you and dont wanna be a d1ck but thats how i get when i feel i get slapped in the face.

Ill see her out and i will defiantley not go up and say hi to her but she might come say hi to me. how should i act? should i just start negging the sh1t out of her and walk away? i havent contacted her since that day.

 

[KontrollerX]

Turn all your mutual friends against her if you can and just get her out of your life.

Any of the friends who take her side cut out of your life forever.

You fvcked up by not making sure you were the one to dump her first.

Now the b!tch has all the power and got her little ego boost from it then you got angry which to her mind indicated you were crazy in love with her which is why you can never get angry at these b!tches ie you don't want to give them any sense of validation of their worth when they screw you over.

And you should not of called her up and apologized for what you said either.

Total symp/AFC move to do that. It shows you are unsure of yourself and your decisions as a man.

This whole situation in fact was one giant fvck up from top to bottom.

Oh well though.

Learn from this experience and never let this happen again.

When your gut instinct senses tell you a relationship is going downhill you make sure you're the one to pull the LJBF/breakup card first.

 

[aix237]

what should i say to her if she approaches cause im not going out my way to say anything? maybe just say hi and walk away?

 

[aix237]

oh yea forgot to mention she came over that day to drop off my sh1t when i said stay the fvck away from me. she seriously showed up unannounced and walked right in my house.

 

[KontrollerX]

"You haven't got any business talking to me, turn around and walk the other way".

If she comes up and talks to you at all or acts sweet its only a veiled manipulation to try and get back in your and your friends good graces.

As for showing up unannounced thats home invasion which the b!tch could of been arrested for if you wanted.

Most people wouldn't have that done when its some ex chick of theirs but anyway aside from the home invasion what her doing this symbolized was her absolute lack of respect for you.

You don't go over to someone's house unannounced like that.

 

[Guybrush]

Tony Montana?

"You **** with me I **** with you|"

Man, you sound like Tony Montana... KX is right, you ****ed it up from top to bottom.

And his advice is probably the best on the topic.

I am in similar feelings so you have my sympathies... This chick that was totally into me suddenly stopped returning my calls. I WAS pissed off, and I made a colossal AFC move by calling her a "jerk" for not returning my calls. I tried to patch my weakness up later on by going for the " oh I was completely kidding!" move and ejected myself.

Golden Words from KX : We must not give them even the SLIGHTEST validation when the relationship is screwed.

The regret of giving her that unnecessary ego boost is really caustic!

Yikes!

Good luck DJ - Go out and sail for new realms...

 

[aix237]

haha saying that sh1t to her will get under her skin and she will look like an idiot. she will probably try to win me over or something then ill tell her to get on her knees and apologize to me and when she does i will say you can go now.