"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Is she testing me?

jtb123

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Ok guys on saturday night I went out with one of my chick friends and we end up back at her place and it starts getting very hot and heavy as in we start hooking up and basically dry-rooting. Ok all sounds good but then the taxi arives and I have to leave but I leave with a solid hook-up at the door and by the expression on her face when we were dry rooting and hooking up basically gave me the impression that she likes me. We have been doing friend things for a little while now like goin to the beach and having lunch and stuff but we only seem to hook up when im drunk (hahaha) and shes maybe semi-drunk. And this latest dry-rooting thing is the most we've done. But we hooked up at first ages ago (we went our seperate ways for about a month and now its back to hooking up and being friends) and in between times that we have hooked up we've rooted different people but were both not seeing anyone.

Ok it sounds good so far seeing as though shes probly a HB8.5 and I like her personality (why would I be her friend if not). We bascially talk about everything including sex alot and if we see someone hot on the street we'd point it out to each other etc so were pretty comfortable around each other. Ok so now on sunday I try and ring her only because i drunkenly arranged to do something with her for the next day (I think it was because I didnt get to bang her that night and I really wanted to and was so close to) and she didnt pick up. This was ok because I'm pretty sure she was at work but she didnt call back.

Now thats not what bothers me. What bothers me is that now I ring her up today and ask her whats doing tonight and eventually whats doing the next couple of days and she just says shes working. So then I say what about after work and she says shes spending the night in with her mum cause she hasnt done that in ages and she promised her. Whats the go? Why was is so good a couple of nights ago and now is staying away time? Is she testing me or is she not as interested as I thought? What should I do? Theres this little thing happening on the weekend that I could invite her to, Should I wait till that night (saturday) and then call her to see if she wants to come, or should I drop her a msg tomorrow to ask her?

Other little things that you maybe know are that shes often told me about the games she use to play with her ex boyfriend and how she would always wait for him to make contact with her rather than calling him. And another thing is we never talk about what happens between us when we hook-up and get all sleazy with each other. It just seems to happen and then the next day its like its never happened (we both act this way).
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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give her the gift of missing you. Try not to look too needy, focus on your life outside of her an shell come back. Her intrest level may have lowered if you started to bug her
 

jtb123

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Well we talk everyday on msn and that seems to be fine but her computer is broken atm so we cant do that anymore. So this is basically the first time I have tried to ring her, before this we didnt speak for 4 days and then she rang me and yer it had been about 4 days since I last spoke to her so im pretty sure I dont act needy and shes knows I have a life outside of her.

What I dont understand is it was all good except its been about 4 days and she hasnt tryed to contact me. Do you think I'm just looking into it too much because I know shes working all week but I dont know about the spending time with her mum thing...sounds like im not that important?

Well do you think I should just leave it and let her contact me or should I ask her to this thing happening on saturday seeing as though its a while away and I just wont speak to her until the day?
 
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