"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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is she playing mind games or was i friendzoned?

duke104

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i made a post last week about a girl im interested in that kept asking me about my love life. heres how it went:

The other day I was talking to a girl that I'm somewhat interested in. During the convo, she asked me why I broke up with my ex, and if I want a girlfriend now. Then out of nowhere she mentioned how she kinda likes some guy. I didn't really say anything and changed the topic soon after. Today I talked to her again and I told her I had plans to hang out with a girl-friend this weekend. Right away she asked me if I like the girl. What is all this supposed to mean?

i figured out that it means shes interested. heres an update:
the girl im interested in asked me who my girl-friend was that i hung out with over the weekend, if i like her and if were gonna date. i told her shes a cool girl to hang out with and its possible that we could end up dating (i really have no interest in my girl-friend, i only said that to make her jealous)

heres what confuses me. she mentioned how she kinda likes some dude and she hung out with him all weekend. i told her how i kinda like a girl as well and that i was thinking about giving it a chance. today she called me her bff. wtf is going on? i dunno if shes interested in me and trying to make me jealous or if her asking me all those questions about my girl-friend meant absolutely nothing.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

Kailex

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Why don't you just ask her out... or kiss her or do SOMETHING?
I mean, don't ask for every little detail on this board and waste away your brain over thinking this.

Do you want to bang her? Then MAKE A MOVE.

Do you want to spend days upon days wondering what the hell she is thinking?

Then keep doing what you're doing.



But for god sake's, there's only one way to find out.

BTW, almost sure she called you her "BFF" just so she can stop liking you and to protect herself from developing more feelings for you... since you don't have the cojones to make a move.

If you do, and it pays off... CONGRATULATIONS.
If you do and it doesn't pay off... then you know your answer.

If you keep on this currrent pace, I'm gonna smack the taste out of your mouth.

Capiche?
 

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Kailex said:
Why don't you just ask her out... or kiss her or do SOMETHING?
I mean, don't ask for every little detail on this board and waste away your brain over thinking this.

Do you want to bang her? Then MAKE A MOVE.

Do you want to spend days upon days wondering what the hell she is thinking?

Then keep doing what you're doing.



But for god sake's, there's only one way to find out.

BTW, almost sure she called you her "BFF" just so she can stop liking you and to protect herself from developing more feelings for you... since you don't have the cojones to make a move.

If you do, and it pays off... CONGRATULATIONS.
If you do and it doesn't pay off... then you know your answer.

If you keep on this currrent pace, I'm gonna smack the taste out of your mouth.

Capiche?
Kailex,

You and I know plenty of people prefer to live in the "what if" fantasy of possiblities rather than risk rejection. As IF rejection is "worse" than ACCEPTANCE. The OP is afraid of acceptance. He thinks he's afraid of getting rejected.

To the OP. She said that to "even the score" of you bring "interested in your ex-GF more" . You need to spin plates, ask her out and not worry about what she says. Make her an orbiter. IF you show TOO much interest the game will be over as she's already playing them by trying to "one up" you with a guy she "likes". Find more girls to like besides her and don't mention them or you will be caught out there.

If I told you I bought a new car and then you said you like another one better or will buy a better one...Is that not a game? Keep your love life mysterious.

Just TELL her you guys will do something fun soon and not appear to make it a "Date". then escalate from there. Unless you prefer to live in the fantasy "what if" possibilities in "life".
 

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Judge nismo-4 found you guilty of overanalysis and removal of the balls. This has a fine of losing the girl and a ticket to Fantasy Hill, North Carolina.

The solution is make a goddamn move and then you'll know. Stop being scared of yourself. Girls can sense that sh*t. If you ask and get a date, good. If not, then she probably wasn't worth it.

The worst a girl can do if you make a move is say no.

Case closed.
 
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