Is she doing this on purpose?

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

PuertoRican_Lover

Banned

Jun 16, 2005

Originally posted by BigFoot
At one time I did get mad at her, and she seemed to like it. I got the sense she either thinks if you get mad at her you really care for her, or, that she likes being "put in her place" - kind of like the security a child feels.

Yes that's true it does seem that you care -- they love the attention!!

A man's duty is to "put a woman in her place" if she doesn't go with the man's goals and objectives in life -- SHE is the MAN"S "help meet" -- and he is NOT her helper!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So don't do the dishes -- don't iron -- don't cook etc............ these are her duties -- as a man your work shoould be grandiose and imperative!!!!

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.