Is sex more likely from chubbier chicks?

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Don Juan

Sep 14, 2007

Several of my friends love goin' hoggin' on the regular. Personally, I just don't get it. These guys also go after women 10-15 years older or more. These are otherwise cool dudes, but to them, a female is a female. A starving man doesn't turn down a greasy slimy cheeseburger and wait for filet mignon, I guess. A man's gotta eat, right? It's frustrating watching this go down, since I know (or hope) they can do better.

For some reason, I really wish they would stop this behavior and step up their standards. Perhaps I'm worried about my own rep by association.

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.