Hi Don Juan-ers!
It's been a while since my last post...I have an interesting situation to share and i'd like to get some thoughts and opinions.
I had a GF for the last 16 months, it was rocky to say the least! But on 4 separate occasions, I was accused of "leering" at other girls. This created all kinds of tension and fighting between us...ultimately I ended it because I was tired of her accusing me of this when I feel I had done nothing wrong. Here is a quick sinopsis of these incidents. I'd like to here any thoughts or feed back my fellow Don Juan-ers may have.
Incident 1- we're at a concert, been together maybe 4 months. 3 young girls sit next to us. At one point, on of these girls accidentially stepped on my foot, she turned around to apologize. Later, the same girl, a little drunk, turns to me and asks if I'm Jewish, I laugh and say no, I'm not. Those girls go to get more beer, when they come back another of the girls offers me a sip of her beer, I say no thank you. This infuriates my GF, the night was ruined. After the concert we go home silent the entire ride home. She was upset I was paying more attention to these girls than her, so she says and that I didn't introduce her to these girls as my GF to let them know I was there with her. I definitely wasn't encouraging these girls or disrespecting my GF in my eyes.
Incident 2 - a few months later, at a restaurant in Long beach, drinking, eating, having a great time. At the end of the night, she was paying the bill, I stand up to go to the bathroom. I get back, she storms off, walking back to the car asking me to take her home. When I asked what was wrong, she tells me "I saw you looking at that girl in the black dress.". To this day, I don't recall seeing this girl. I tried to explain that I didn't even see who she was talking about. That was like talking to a brick wall.
Incident 3- in march of this year, at Walmart buying water, a girl in yellow pants is standing in front of us. When we get home, no fight, but she tells me, I just want you to know i saw you looking at that girl in the yellow pants in front of us. No kidding! She's wearing yellow pants!!!
Incident 4- driving the OC fair about a month ago, she suggested going to the fair, sounded good to me. We're going to park and it packed. She asks, is there anywhere else to go around here, after a nearly 50 mile drive. I'm pissed! I ask, do you not want to go anymore? She says it's up to you. So I say we're here, let's just go! So we walk to the entrance, stand in line for 15 mins or so and finally get in. Her mood has deteriorated. I ask what do you want to eat? Nothing, I lost my appetite. So I get a pizza and eat it in front of her...I'm not letting her kill my good time. Im asking her what's wrong but she says everything is fine. Obviously not! I ask, wanna go on some rides? No! Shopping? No! So I get pissed further and say, let's just go! You obviously don't want to be here. So I just start walking back to car and drive her home. We were at he fair all of 30 mins. Come to find out a day later, she was mad because she thought I was looking at a girl standing in line to get our tickets...this was the straw that broke the camels back.
I couldn't take it anymore, all this accusing and drama. Yes, I do look around and I do see girls from time to time. Haha. But never did I feel like I was leering or being disrespectful. She tells me all I ever asked you to do is not look at other girls when I'm around and to introduce me as your GF if a girl begins to flirt with you. Bottom line in my book is she didnt trust me and I told her that. She tells me she trusts me but that doesn't reconcile with her actions.
Sorry for the long post...this just really bugged me! Any thoughts or opinions guys?
Big Nick
It's been a while since my last post...I have an interesting situation to share and i'd like to get some thoughts and opinions.
I had a GF for the last 16 months, it was rocky to say the least! But on 4 separate occasions, I was accused of "leering" at other girls. This created all kinds of tension and fighting between us...ultimately I ended it because I was tired of her accusing me of this when I feel I had done nothing wrong. Here is a quick sinopsis of these incidents. I'd like to here any thoughts or feed back my fellow Don Juan-ers may have.
Incident 1- we're at a concert, been together maybe 4 months. 3 young girls sit next to us. At one point, on of these girls accidentially stepped on my foot, she turned around to apologize. Later, the same girl, a little drunk, turns to me and asks if I'm Jewish, I laugh and say no, I'm not. Those girls go to get more beer, when they come back another of the girls offers me a sip of her beer, I say no thank you. This infuriates my GF, the night was ruined. After the concert we go home silent the entire ride home. She was upset I was paying more attention to these girls than her, so she says and that I didn't introduce her to these girls as my GF to let them know I was there with her. I definitely wasn't encouraging these girls or disrespecting my GF in my eyes.
Incident 2 - a few months later, at a restaurant in Long beach, drinking, eating, having a great time. At the end of the night, she was paying the bill, I stand up to go to the bathroom. I get back, she storms off, walking back to the car asking me to take her home. When I asked what was wrong, she tells me "I saw you looking at that girl in the black dress.". To this day, I don't recall seeing this girl. I tried to explain that I didn't even see who she was talking about. That was like talking to a brick wall.
Incident 3- in march of this year, at Walmart buying water, a girl in yellow pants is standing in front of us. When we get home, no fight, but she tells me, I just want you to know i saw you looking at that girl in the yellow pants in front of us. No kidding! She's wearing yellow pants!!!
Incident 4- driving the OC fair about a month ago, she suggested going to the fair, sounded good to me. We're going to park and it packed. She asks, is there anywhere else to go around here, after a nearly 50 mile drive. I'm pissed! I ask, do you not want to go anymore? She says it's up to you. So I say we're here, let's just go! So we walk to the entrance, stand in line for 15 mins or so and finally get in. Her mood has deteriorated. I ask what do you want to eat? Nothing, I lost my appetite. So I get a pizza and eat it in front of her...I'm not letting her kill my good time. Im asking her what's wrong but she says everything is fine. Obviously not! I ask, wanna go on some rides? No! Shopping? No! So I get pissed further and say, let's just go! You obviously don't want to be here. So I just start walking back to car and drive her home. We were at he fair all of 30 mins. Come to find out a day later, she was mad because she thought I was looking at a girl standing in line to get our tickets...this was the straw that broke the camels back.
I couldn't take it anymore, all this accusing and drama. Yes, I do look around and I do see girls from time to time. Haha. But never did I feel like I was leering or being disrespectful. She tells me all I ever asked you to do is not look at other girls when I'm around and to introduce me as your GF if a girl begins to flirt with you. Bottom line in my book is she didnt trust me and I told her that. She tells me she trusts me but that doesn't reconcile with her actions.
Sorry for the long post...this just really bugged me! Any thoughts or opinions guys?
Big Nick
