"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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is it worth it?

Georgie

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Hello, first of all I know this is a beginner's question so spare me the flaming.. :p
Ok so my "little story" goes like this. There is this girl that we talk on and off on IRC. I've never met her in person but she seemed intriguing enough to rouse my interests. Anw so one night on a whim I gave her my phone
number and told her to call me at that exact moment. One minute passes, phone rings and we started talking. It was like 1.30 in the morning and we finally hang up at around 3. During our little conversation she invited me to
some amusement park she was about to go with some friends of hers to which ofcourse I responded positively. Also turns out that this chick actually saw me at some places and asked me "was that you? bla bla" whilst we were
talking on the phone so I guess she was interested enough to ask around beforehand (we have some common friends).
This was Sunday btw, come Monday and she calls me telling me that her friends that she was supposed to go with bailed out on her and asked me if i'd be willing to go just with her instead. Unfortunately though, ticket fares are quite expensive so seeing that i was unable to find tickets cheap enough (hey i wouldnt want to spent more than 30 pounds on a chick i've never seen before in my life, i've had enough of surprises) I call her the next day and tell her that i wouldnt be able to make it, we make some little
conversation and then i abruptly tell her that i got some work to do, give her a swift 'goodbye' and hang up. One minute
passes and she calls me back telling me that we should still meet up somehow. I tell her 'sure why not? how bout you come
to glasgow?' she tells me she'll try to find a cheap ticket and give me a call, anw i was really busy at the time so
i gave her kindof a subtle buzz-off once again and hang up. Suffice to say, I felt a bit bad seeing that she might've taken
it as me being a no-mannered jerk but nothing much i could do now.
Anw so 4 days pass and no signs of life and so i decide to take the initiative this time and call her up. To my dissapointment
she sounded as if her interest-level had droped a notch or two. I mean i can just tell when a chick has that
'ok what the **** does he want now?' tone. Nonetheless, she told me she had a couple of mishaps during the past week
but she'll try to make an effort. (its been 2 days since..)

So I guess basically this whole thing boils down to two questions:
1)Is she worth it, is this really worth my time/another attempt perhaps? or
2)Shall I just fold it up, stop kicking a dead dog and go to the next one?

Cheers lads!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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xblitz44x

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1) Nobody knows if she'll actually pan out, including you. But it does sound like she was interested in meeting with you... until you decided to blow her off for no apparent reason.

2) Call her once more and see if you can set up a date to meet. Be sincere. Be real. No games. If she is still cold and distant then write it off and learn.
 

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xblitz44x , WOW I have never seen your site before and I just checked it out. That fat chick story is damn funny,good job on the site.
 
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