"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Is it now "body shaming" or "objectiving" to demand that cheerleaders be fit & attractive?

MatureDJ

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(That should be "objectifying")

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry...de-is-complete-bs_us_57222c1be4b0f309baefed76

http://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news...ts-gets-dropped-university-washington-n563811

The university's student government said in a statement Wednesday afternoon that the flyer "does not reflect the values of the University of Washington."

"An advertisement such as this completely objectifies women and creates barriers that only perpetuates the inaccessibility of opportunities that should be open for every student on this campus," it said.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Writers gotta write, editors gotta edit, publishers gotta publish - all for clicks and eyeballs so they can get paid to have you sit still and show you advertising.

Readers do NOT have to read their crap.

If you do, you perpetuate what they do.

You have choice. Use it.
 
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(That should be "objectifying")

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry...de-is-complete-bs_us_57222c1be4b0f309baefed76

http://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news...ts-gets-dropped-university-washington-n563811

The university's student government said in a statement Wednesday afternoon that the flyer "does not reflect the values of the University of Washington."

"An advertisement such as this completely objectifies women and creates barriers that only perpetuates the inaccessibility of opportunities that should be open for every student on this campus," it said.
Not gonna lie, I actually partially agree with the complainers... the flyer is pretty damn superficial let's be real. Like if you have any visible tattoos, you're out of luck. You must have a certain hair style, but for no practical reason. You can't have your hair back but it should have volume and be curly. Then they get into tanning and spray on tans...

Seems kind of ridiculous because if you're actually motivated, athletic and capable of dong a great job you might not get an opportunity because of something extremely superficial.

But with that said, I see no problem with the part about being athletic and fit. How is encouraging girls to be athletic and fit a bad thing? Everyone has the opportunity to do that. It's called being healthy. If the school wants to showcase their healthiest girls, how is that wrong? You need to be fit to do the job anyways.
 

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I'll never read anything on Huffington Post, but I did see this article elsewhere though. A lot of people were upset their idea of a stereotypical, ideal cheerleader is a white, skinny blonde girl. So naturally someone complains of yet another supposed example of white privilege in this country.

Never mind the fact that when you think of a cheerleader, 99% of people are going to think of a short cute blond girl anyway. This just seems like yet another example of people getting worked up over something completely worthless.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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It isn't anything new.
Women complaining or getting jealous of other women.

They are gaining momentum though. That is something to consider.

I don't have daughters but if I did and she was "shamed" for her unhealthiness then I will empathize that it is hard work to be healthy and fit...but worth it and at the same time it becomes easier and note worthy to be fit for the sake of her own life plus the children she may bear.

Let the whiners whine and in the end mother nature doesn't care.

If its about race....ummm...yea no.
True beauty and confidence stands out in spite of racism.
Like having a ton of cash or class.

Those who have it ...great.
Those who don't...still great.
You decide what's important.
But yea...if they were smarter they would have put up a picture of a whole cheer squad with different types....cuz they're just asking for it if they only put up avg. Barbie up there.
 
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