"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Is it insecure to need reminders?

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MrS

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Hey guys,
I have the following problem - when someone gives me praise, or says something nice to me/about me, I like to hear it again, but without asking silly/obvious questions about that certain something, I don't get around to it.
Anyone know what I'm talking about?

Like a friend of mine, excited I'm going to study with him next year, roommates, I like to hear him tell me he's excited and we are going to have a great time.

Or a girl I know, also there, can't wait for me to get there, says things here and there to imply that, but I like to hear these things more often.

Is this insecure? Should I be happy with them saying it once and forget about it?
I'm a very enthusiastic kinda person, and repeat myself sometimes when it's something that I'm looking forward to.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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sherineo

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O yeah..

it is being very insecure...

I mean I'm insecure upto certain level but being like this just too much...

If you havewatched the movie Spanglish..It's like being the character that plays Adam Sandler's Wife...

She had similarb low self esteem issues of hanging on to each and every word of praise for dear life...
 
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Yup, it's validation from an outside source. It's like when a girl tells you that you're hot, and you ask to hear it again. It just portrays that you don't believe it yourself, and you can't believe that they do. It's a form of desperation.

Just say thanks you and agree. Now, if you just want to talk about how fun it's going to be, that's great, and they'll probably agree. Just don't look for them to say it.
 
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