"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Is it chump move?

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Ive met this bank teller few months ago but i dont have the courage to strike a conversation with her because she seems so busy..But i know her name because of her id and i occasionally have a prolonged eye contact with her.hehe Now i want to try to add her on facebook and try to talk to her online.. Is this a chump/afc move?instead of striking a conversation with her personaly?..
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Don't do that, very creepy. Next time you go in there and she helps you just try to strike up a conversation.
 

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Do it in person. Don't attempt to add her on FB.
 

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nokkigelo said:
Now i want to try to add her on facebook and try to talk to her online..
Don't do that. Don't do it. Don't even think about it. She could/might be interested in you, and if you do that, she will run the other way. Creep her profile all you want, just don't hit her up via Facebook. Don't add her as friend either.

It is a very fine line to toe in this situation. I would not try to ask her out at her job. Take it from me, I've tried to go that route when I was younger with a hot waitress, a video store clerk, some other random girls, and asking them out on the job very rarely works.

Tellers get hit on all the time. From the teenage kid cashing in his landscaping check, to the retired codger thinking he's still "got it".

The only way you have a chance with this woman is if she initiates contact and shows interest in you while you show very little interest in return. I would advise your next interaction with her would be that of indifference. I would even try to ignore her, but make sure she sees you, and go to a different teller purposely. This will get her thinking about you and why you basically ignored her. Chicks get revved up when you throw them off a little.

Then, the next time you see her, see how she acts. Does she get excited to see you? Then you know.

You are in her court here and she calls the shots, unfortunately.
 

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expos said:
Don't do that. Don't do it. Don't even think about it. She could/might be interested in you, and if you do that, she will run the other way. Creep her profile all you want, just don't hit her up via Facebook. Don't add her as friend either.

It is a very fine line to toe in this situation. I would not try to ask her out at her job. Take it from me, I've tried to go that route when I was younger with a hot waitress, a video store clerk, some other random girls, and asking them out on the job very rarely works.

Tellers get hit on all the time. From the teenage kid cashing in his landscaping check, to the retired codger thinking he's still "got it".

The only way you have a chance with this woman is if she initiates contact and shows interest in you while you show very little interest in return. I would advise your next interaction with her would be that of indifference. I would even try to ignore her, but make sure she sees you, and go to a different teller purposely. This will get her thinking about you and why you basically ignored her. Chicks get revved up when you throw them off a little.

Then, the next time you see her, see how she acts. Does she get excited to see you? Then you know.

You are in her court here and she calls the shots, unfortunately.
thanks for the advice bro..:) but the thing is i think it needs timing and a little bit of luck to approach her and ask her out because i cannot choose which teller i want to go because the tellers are the one who calls customers in line.:D

We often have eye contact though i cannot go to her and strike a conversation because im in a different teller.:confused:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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nokkigelo said:
thanks for the advice bro..:) but the thing is i think it needs timing and a little bit of luck to approach her and ask her out because i cannot choose which teller i want to go because the tellers are the one who calls customers in line.:D

We often have eye contact though i cannot go to her and strike a conversation because im in a different teller.:confused:
of course you can when its your turn and it not that girl just pass your turn to the one behind you, you need to relax you know
 

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I had a date with a hot bank teller once.

Here's how I did it:

Being friendly and having small talk during a few transactions over a period of weeks.

After she was familiar with me I left her my business card
and said: "this is for you" as I left.

On the business card I wrote: "Let's have lunch some time :)"
and also hand wrote my cel number.

I got a call from her the next day.

She said she was very flattered I wanted to hang out with
her and when was a good time for me.

It would have worked out, but she was already in the process
of relocating to another city, but we did have a good time before she moved.
 

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pdx1138 said:
I had a date with a hot bank teller once.

Here's how I did it:

Being friendly and having small talk during a few transactions over a period of weeks.

After she was familiar with me I left her my business card
and said: "this is for you" as I left.

On the business card I wrote: "Let's have lunch some time :)"
and also hand wrote my cel number.

I got a call from her the next day.

She said she was very flattered I wanted to hang out with
her and when was a good time for me.

It would have worked out, but she was already in the process
of relocating to another city, but we did have a good time before she moved.
This is your only option. You can either do this and hope it happens, or forget it. I'd try this.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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