"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is It a good or bad move to write her something for our 6 months day?

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bfl

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Tomorrow the 20th makes 6 months that me and my gurl have been together, now just today we got back together of a little break up ( i guess u can call it that) but stuff is still shaky.

Whats a good thing to do tomorrow in our 6 month "milestone"

Sh1t i was thinking in not saying a thing to her but i thought that might be sort of cruel, i was thinking in writing her a little somethign and its a wrap, iono, thats why im asking yall.

What yall think?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Bad idea. It sets a precedent that you'll constantly have to work to live up to. And, if you're like most guys, sooner or later you'll forget and then there'll be hell to pay.

If she mentions it, sure, go for it. Give her a nice kiss, maybe a whispered "happy anniversary" or something. But unless she brings it up, keep your lip zipped.
 
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How on earth do people remember specific dates for anniversaries? I can't even remember the week, much less the day, unless I write it down without losing it.
 
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BFL, you are sounding like a woman - what the hell are you talking about - a 6-month what??? Bastard, quit watching the oprah winfrey show - you are starting to sound like a biatch!!!!!!!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The only reason I remember my ex's 'anniversary' was because it was september the 1st, 2001. She went to New York :- )

Ten days later and I was getting a little stressed as she'd mentioned she was sightseeing that day.

Fortunately she'd visited the twin towers the year before, but we've got a spooky picture of them the day before when she did a boat trip out of the harbour.
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by fuzzx
Thats retarded... 6 months is nothing, I can't stand how chicks make a big deal out of absolutely nothing. Get her a whole bunch of flavoured condoms or edible panties and let her guess at what your going to do for your 'special day' with her.
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Actually six months is a big deal. Not necessarily a reason to celebrate but it is a milestone in a committed relationship. Most relationship health is determined at the six month mark. It's at this point where the crossroad of continue to solidify the relationship or branch off, cut your losses and find another path.

Given that, it may be worthwhile to have a serious talk about LTR (if that is the goal). It's best to put all expectations out on the table and begin paving the way to establish a seemingly smooth relationship path. Now the real work begins.
 
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