Is having a girlfriend even worth it

[Dhoulmagus]

Why do most guys stay with girls long term and we just go through them like a Fraternity keg at a part? Is it because most guys just ignore the warning signs and put up with their **** till it explodes and we know when to abort ship?

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

Both men AND women get into long term relationships because:

1) They hate being alone
2) Being in a relationship provides constant validation of you as a person
3) Having a steady relationship is less stressful, provided that it's a healthy one
4) Stability feels good to most people, and LTRs provide stability
5) An individual becomes comfortable in LTRs and is reluctant to end it simply because it would great a massive unknown in his/her life
6) Sleeping with the same partner is far less stressful than bumping between partners when you're thinking about diseases, style, compatibility, feel, etc

Oh yeah I almost missed one: Some people enter willingly into healthy relationships where neither person is merely tolerating the other person's **** for sexual gratification. It turns out that some people with healthy minds, bodies, and emotional states are capable of having healthy, lasting relationships with like-minded people that enhance both partners' lives.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Both men AND women get into long term relationships because:

1) They hate being alone
2) Being in a relationship provides constant validation of you as a person
3) Having a steady relationship is less stressful, provided that it's a healthy one
4) Stability feels good to most people, and LTRs provide stability
5) An individual becomes comfortable in LTRs and is reluctant to end it simply because it would great a massive unknown in his/her life
6) Sleeping with the same partner is far less stressful than bumping between partners when you're thinking about diseases, style, compatibility, feel, etc

Oh yeah I almost missed one: Some people enter willingly into healthy relationships where neither person is merely tolerating the other person's **** for sexual gratification. It turns out that some people with healthy minds, bodies, and emotional states are capable of having healthy, lasting relationships with like-minded people that enhance both partners' lives.

Why is the last option so rare

 

[Vice]

Why is the last option so rare

Looking at your post history will give you the answer to that question. You attract your equivalent female partner.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Looking at your post history will give you the answer to that question. You attract your equivalent female partner.

so I'm screwed

 

[Lolapo]

I wonder about this to. I've been 'alone' for 2 years now because I knew what having a LTR meant and as such I didn't want one, I dispised it. And I think, if a man has goals in his life and is mentally stable and strong, he will not look for women, he will just keep going for his goals.

If he reaches them or doesn't have any big goals left, he'll start to look for another way to get the same feeling, getting more interested in girls.

This is what I conclude if I look at myself, I'm not absolutely sure about this but it does seem plausible to me.

I think it also depends on the man's ability to be strongwilling and having a strong mindset.

 

[captain55]

No it's not worth it because the only chicks that make you feel on cloud 9 and like superman are chicks with BPD and they all **** you over at the end of the day anyways. Not saying good girls don't exist, they do....but the sex is never as good as a chick with BPD so Id rather just be single and pump and dump the crazies. Easier said than done though...every now and then you fall for a physcho and she rips your heart out but that's life and we all need to go through it a couple times to learn to spot the red flags

 

[stevo]

Depends on the individual. To me, the pain of breakups makes any relationship(Girlfriend) where there is a breakup not worth it, therefore only permanent relationships have value to me. Anything other is just a prolonged fraud in my opinion.

:yes:

You'd have to gradually progress from a girlfriend to fiancee to wife. So if she doesnt impress the mess of out me the first time and she doesn't qualify as who I could consider giving my last name then yeah fcuk it, getting too old for break ups. :rock:

 

[Dhoulmagus]

I was hanging out with my friends and their gfs went to clubs without them and told them they were too tired to meet up:/ I didn't even bother questioning that, but I guess girls trust only betas.

 

[JohnyTheArrow]

All cool and nice but there is HUGE disadvantage of LTR - boredom. If you aren't fueled by passion or your chick isn't it will end as boring ****. You start from crazy dates and end watching Netflix eating popcorn in dirty clothes.Then comes a moment you don't want to **** the chick no matter how hot is, because you both don't evolve and don't mutate.

I think every 12 month you or her should do total makeover, change from nerd to athlete, then change from athlete to artists, then change from artists to adventurer ... this way you can make yourself always sexy because you are never same boring ****.You get bored with familiarity.Even diamonds are boring and not special after you own them.

BOREDOM is nr 1 killer of relationship.Never be the same,change,evolve,mutate,surprise.Every x months invent some crazy passion in yourself and get fueled by it.
This will make your chick always wet, because she doesn't know what comes next.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Deadly ripped gave a good list, I may add lazyness and lack of tolerance toward "the field" and its rules.

From the dating phase to the texting rules then arranging the date, flaking risks, meet her friends, drive to the place and find parking place, call her and pick it up when she does, change your schedules and so on...so yeah I would say lazyness in many cases, I dont need a second work and most of all when I get a work, I work cause I know I get paid instead of "maybe".

Also the desire to have a girl which is yours and no one else is touching, I feel like driving a personal corolla is better than sharing a ferrari with other men where you find food under the seats, empty tank or wrong setting on the seats.