Is being friends with an HB9.5 torture?

[I_Only_Live_Once]

I have a friend who is incredibly attractive. I've always had a crush on her because of her great looks as well as awesome personality. She's not like most girls. When she says something to me I know she's being honest. When she says she wants to hang out on Friday night, I know there will be no flake out. The problem is that she's in a LTR with this guy, and I feel that my game with her is never that strong. I think it's because I can be kind of intimidated by her looks. Anyway, does anyone else feel that this kind of friendship is torture? I mean, she's like eye candy, but not candy that I get to have.

 

[arlanda]

Ah well, I wanted to be friends with my ex-one-itis but I just couldn't. I am over her but some feelings are still there - I believe you can't just tell yourself "she's ONLY a friend" and feel nothing (especially if she's a beauty) if you felt something for her in the past.

IF you get her to hook you up with equally attractive girlfriends of hers then by all means KEEP HER. Other girls will help you get her curvy, tasty body out of your mind

 

[AmIAFC]

Yeah, it can be torture, but would you rather not have a friend -- a good looking one at that? Control your emotions, and focus those urges on other women. You don't want to ditch a friend -- you know, someone that's supposed to have your back through thick and thin -- just because your smaller head is having fits.

I think friendship is an underappreciated topic on this forum.

 

[ketostix]

I think being friends with any girl you want to get physical with is torture. I guess it would be worse if you wanted her and she didn't even want to be friends.

 

[diplomatic_lies]

Being friends with a 9.5 is great, because having a supermodel introduce you to a girl is like having Bill Gates recommend you for a job.

 

[Firefly]

Originally posted by AmIAFC
Yeah, it can be torture, but would you rather not have a friend -- a good looking one at that? Control your emotions, and focus those urges on other women. You don't want to ditch a friend -- you know, someone that's supposed to have your back through thick and thin -- just because your smaller head is having fits.

I think friendship is an underappreciated topic on this forum.

And speaking from experience, if you treat a HB9.5 as "just a friend" and constantly use her to attract other women, she will eventually decide that she wants to bag you too, to prove to herself that she is just as attractive as the other women she sees you with ...

 

[Jariel]

If you try to be friends with her in the hope of scoring with her at some point, that's a typical creepy "nice guy" act. But if you honestly want to be friends with her for friendship's sake then go for it.

As long as you have drawn that line, you can both be comfortable. If she senses you have ulterior motives, then she may (rightfully) exploit it and treat you like a lapdog, so be warned.

 

[RedPill]

Originally posted by Jariel
If you try to be friends with her in the hope of scoring with her at some point, that's a typical creepy "nice guy" act. But if you honestly want to be friends with her for friendship's sake then go for it.

As long as you have drawn that line, you can both be comfortable. If she senses you have ulterior motives, then she may (rightfully) exploit it and treat you like a lapdog, so be warned.

Be HONEST with yourself. Jariel's advice is spot on. Thing is though, a lot of guys fool themselves into thinking they don't have ulterior motives. Then the cycle of oneitis continues. CHOOSE not to have oneitis, and your problem will be solved whether you decide to be friends with her or not. It's the choice to control your emotions that will make the difference for you.

 

[WesCottII]

Yeah....it's torture mate. I speak from experience, back when I was a AFC, I had a 9.5 "friend". In the end I turned into a jeleous controll freak prick, coz I couldn't stand to see her with other guys. She was an AW, but it still got to me.

 

[Alphathree]

Depends on the context... can be used for heavy social proof...

 

[Marlimus]

I think friendship is an underappreciated topic on this forum.

Agreed.

 

[Q-Pid]

No it's not.

 

[Jariel]

Originally posted by AmIAFC
I think friendship is an underappreciated topic on this forum.

I have to agree with this too. Friends are your key to getting out more, increasing social networks and meeting women, developing social skills and confidence, and a whole lot more. Plus, when you have a good network of friends, you can do away with cold approaching and PUA techniques, and still meet women too.

 

[MindOverMatter]

she is the closest girl to you in proximity, so naturally you have a thing for her. you may think her personality etc are great and one of a kind, but in reality they are not. you may think that she can give you something no other girl can, but that's not true. until you date a girl, and get to know her as well as you've gotten to know your friend, you'll never know.

instead of messing up a perfectly good friendship, do what wiser heads have suggested and expand your social circle with this girl.

 

[Trance]

Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
Being friends with a 9.5 is great, because having a supermodel introduce you to a girl is like having Bill Gates recommend you for a job.

haha great

and true btw

 

[backbreaker]

considering the fact that the only reason you are friends with her in the first place, is because she is a HB 9.5, I think it's stupid to sit here and try to convince yourself being her friend is the way to go..

Take it from someone who has been down that line... You can't be friends with someone you want to ****... You can play friends, you can even give friendly advice, and do friendly things with each other... but you can't BE friends.

Because you are trying to be her friend, she is going to see you as a friend for the rest of your life, something you know you don't want.

The reason her LTR has her and you don't, is because he is honest to himself and you aren't..

Sometimes, it just wasn't ment to be.

I recently got togther with a girl that I was in a similar situtation with... Beautiful, "great personality " all of that.... But one day I noticed I wasn't getting anywhere with it, so I told her that no disrespect, but I'm not your friend... I don't want to be friends, never did, you know what I want from you.

Now, she eventually came back, but I was fuller over her.. It hurts, because I did enjoy her company (which was the problem in the first place, you aren't supposed to enjoy her company, you are supposed to enjoy doing **** with her, not just HER) but it was best most efficent thing I ever did.

 

[Badmannaz]

Cardinal rule #1

Don't ever become friends with a girl who you would slightly find interesting!!!

if your not dating her then you 2 shouldn't be close friends...you got your guy friends for that...if you need a chick as a friend go for a fat chick or a girl you would never f*ck