Is a woman making U wait, while herself having had 1NS's, a form of minor cuckolding?

[MatureDJ]

http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2011/09/27/hookinguprealities/has-the-price-of-sex-bottomed-out/

Now, if I have to date her for 3-6 months to finally have sex, put in a ton of time and commitment, prove my “worthiness” and then I find out she had a bunch of one-night stands and sex on dates 1, 2, 3, then I feel like a chump. Basically, in a nutshell, your sexual attractiveness must not hold a candle to all these guys she ****ed right away. I think you actually nailed it when you made the comment that it feels kind of like a minor cuckolding.

Interesting ... I would feel like a chump as well, and be suspect of her motives of seeing me as a beta provider rather than an alpha that she really would want to do the nasty with. But what can a man do if his choice of an obese single mommy that would want to have a 1NS with him or a hot woman who has had 1NS's with higher SMV men, but at least would give a lesser man a chance so long as he proves he is after her for the "relationship"?

 

[Findog]

Sometimes women make a guy wait longer when they see him as "boyfriend" material. And it cuts both ways: she doesn't want you to think she's a slut by putting out so soon. Most women innately understand that having sex so soon, such as the first date, is a demonstration of low value and a lack of fitness for relationships. If they don't see the guy as likely to stick around or himself not a good long-term candidate, they're likelier to put out.

I mean, sometimes they just wanna get laid, so if they're on vacation to Cancun or whatever, they'll eff the guy they met on the beach the same day. Whereas back home, a guy who has a good job and is a "catch" or whatever is gonna have to wait a bit to tap it, because she's qualifying herself.

 

[Who Dares Win]

http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2011/09/27/hookinguprealities/has-the-price-of-sex-bottomed-out/



Interesting ... I would feel like a chump as well, and be suspect of her motives of seeing me as a beta provider rather than an alpha that she really would want to do the nasty with. But what can a man do if his choice of an obese single mommy that would want to have a 1NS with him or a hot woman who has had 1NS's with higher SMV men, but at least would give a lesser man a chance so long as he proves he is after her for the "relationship"?

I mean if I were that guy I would simply wait for my turn then bang her and relegate to fvck buddie without any sense of guilt.
The problems with this guy is that he invested emotionally too much into a girl who didnt prove herself yet while at the same time being reactive to the situation instead of proactive.
When you do not invest emotionally and in ego in a girl its much easier to take the best out of the situation with no damages to your self esteem or mental health.

During the times she makes you wait just keep getting other girls, you feel like a chump only if you play the game she created and follow the rules which are made to make her win and make you lose.

A complete re-frame of the situation its what turns sh1t into gold.

 

[Alvafe]

I think that is a pretty good reason for you to use "the spin plates" theory, if she takes too long you will find someone else and can next her after she put out

 

[Findog]

I understand why women are playing this game, and you do a good job of explaning their motivations.

But honestly, she is doing what she wants, when she wants, how she wants it.

If she is playing the game by those rules, and forcing you to comply by waiting for sex when she has already demonstrated she does not consider sex valuable, then what does that say about you if you acquiesce to her demands? What does that say about the integrity of this woman?

By accepting her actions in this manner, have you not already ceded that she is the higher value in the relationship?

Will you then allow yourself to be shamed in turn for doing what you want, when you want, and how you want?

Why not just fvk her when she finally opens her legs, and then continue to spin other plates whilst making her just a FB status? Do you not have the same right to seek your maximum pleasure as she has done for herself the past ten years?

I think it really just depends on what you want. The last six women I've been with, all of them except one put out by the third date, and the other gave it up on the fourth. And for the most part, I wasn't looking to start up anything serious, I just wanted to get laid, so I upped the kino early and was consistently aggressive.

The last woman I had a serious relationship with, first date to sex was about six weeks, and the main reason it took that long was because the last guy before me had really sweet-talked her and made her think he was interested in a relationship, then he pumped and dumped her. I saw her as more than a FWB so to me it was not much of a sacrifice if I had to wait a few more dates than I would prefer to get the flag.