Had some really interesting discussion with my ex.
Some background - although she said her on button was always switched on with me and I gave her intense Os, she did not really have a strong s*x drive. She said she understood if someone had to go outside the relationship to satisfy themselves s*xually as long as she didn’t know about it or had it rubbed in her face. She noted that there are reasons why affairs happen and escorts exist and that you can’t expect one person to fully satisfy their partner in the bedroom as this is unrealistic.
interesting perspective. Very pragmatic. She also noted that most women don’t really enjoy s*x or have the same s*x drive as men but I’m not sure if this was just a reflection of her own views. She said she would find variety in the bedroom to be exhausting and it would place too much pressure on her. She also had a few hard boundaries which were quite normal for my tastes that I just couldn’t live without which is one reason we are no longer together.
Personally I would find it just frustrating if you had to go outside a relationship because your partner couldn’t satisfy you in bed. I’d rather find someone who was able to. I think this is different to just wanting pure variety though.
But it’s still good to know that I might be able to hit her up in the future. We did recently sleep together twice while we were both dating others. She had no guilt both times.
Some background - although she said her on button was always switched on with me and I gave her intense Os, she did not really have a strong s*x drive. She said she understood if someone had to go outside the relationship to satisfy themselves s*xually as long as she didn’t know about it or had it rubbed in her face. She noted that there are reasons why affairs happen and escorts exist and that you can’t expect one person to fully satisfy their partner in the bedroom as this is unrealistic.
interesting perspective. Very pragmatic. She also noted that most women don’t really enjoy s*x or have the same s*x drive as men but I’m not sure if this was just a reflection of her own views. She said she would find variety in the bedroom to be exhausting and it would place too much pressure on her. She also had a few hard boundaries which were quite normal for my tastes that I just couldn’t live without which is one reason we are no longer together.
Personally I would find it just frustrating if you had to go outside a relationship because your partner couldn’t satisfy you in bed. I’d rather find someone who was able to. I think this is different to just wanting pure variety though.
But it’s still good to know that I might be able to hit her up in the future. We did recently sleep together twice while we were both dating others. She had no guilt both times.