Interested, but flaky?

[ChadIsBack]

Hey guys hows it going,

I've been dating this chick I got to know in a restaurant, long story short, we went out for coffee, then later on a dinner.

She showed a pretty good interest level, I did my thing, she was practically laughing all night, took her out to the piers after dinner, sat and talked and got the k-close.

Heres the deal though, of all the positive signs she is showing me there is one thing that gets to me - and that is the fact that she never calls back when she says she will. Personally I'd like to adhere to a 3-strikes rule, 3 mistakes and shes out...but of course...being fresh outta AFCland doubts set in from time to time.

I asked her out again for dinner on saturday, she said ok to it and she'll call me back on friday (today), course she never did. This is the 3rd time this has happened, so DJs is it time to next her?

Thanks in advance!

 

[horaholic]

Next her. She's showing false interest, and disrespecting you. Forget about her.

 

[ChadIsBack]

Thanks guys, next it is.

I've been doing a fair share of reading this month or so, I've heard people say 'If shes flaky, she aint interested' very often. I feel like I'm starting to really believe in it now, but I still can't fully internalize this sorta mentality causing me to go crazy AFC at times.

Its just a pretty crazy emotional rollercoaster for me, I can feel like a million bucks at times especially after getting a number off an approach, or escalating with positive response during a date....

On the otherhand, I can feel like a total loser in between dates, I just start to think too much and become emotionally invested even if I tell myself not to. It's getting better lately tho as I've been just putting more time into my interests, like dancing, tennis and my friends so as to put my mind off of things.

I duno, haha, just feels good getting this outta my chest...

 

[DJDamage]

what's with all the dinner invitations?! let me guess, all she has to do is show up and you pay for her meals and hope that this gesture will get you to her green pasture??? That's weak.

Don't be a chump and buy her dinners so early at the game where she hasn't even prove her worth. For all you know she is using you for free meals and free entertainment when she is bored and doesn't want to spend money on herself. Go out for drinks and back to your place, or even better drinks at your place!

The only meal for her should be right between your legs!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7g6P75oBkAg

 

[ChadIsBack]

Oh DJDamage, don't get me wrong I've never bought her dinner, it was always split between the middle. I know she isn't using me as free meals and entertainment - that much I'm sure. The reason for her low/false interest probably lies with my weak inner game, which is something I'm working hard to improve.

Thanks for the advice everybody, it's not the first time this situation has come up for me and with each successive occurrence I feel like I can make a rebound quicker. Still a long long way to go tho, but I'm pumped.

 

[Demonicale]

I've realised this the hard way, i had this girl i really liked show me low intrest and flaked on me 3 times.
She works right next to me and i've ignored her and have'nt text her or made an effort to go and find her...WHY you may ask?....cause i'm worth more than ****

 

[Malador]

Ran across this post and I actually had the same thing happen to me with a girl a couple months ago. She had to "work" all the time on weekends and didn't like talking on the phone at all. I tried my best for about a month to get her, accomplished nothing, and then totally withdrew for about 2 months. The good thing about that was that I was completely over it 2 months later so whether or not it went anywhere didn't matter at all to me anymore. Well I ran into her again and all of the sudden she showed way more interest in me, wanted to talk on the phone, ect. Now she's chasing me, and it's not because I changed my game up or anything, I just showed her that I was willing to drop it and move on.

Not only is she the one after me now, but I already came to terms with the fact that it wouldnt go anywhere before, so whatever happens is just a bonus. If they don't come back, you've already moved on anyway, if they do then they do.