jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
There are examples that can be considered adequate, but there is no "correct" or "right" reality regarding what happens to us in life or how we feel. It all depends on the events we experience and the feedback we receive. This is the essence of the discussion.
We can be tall, handsome, and wealthy individuals living in New York, where these characteristics are common, yet still feel dissatisfied. Conversely, we might be short, overweight, bald, and poor, living in a simpler context where we feel good and, above all, are made to feel good by others.
Our life experiences are influenced by the actions we take, the events we encounter, and the context in which we find ourselves—space, age, and time. Finally, it is essential to consider the responses we receive; that is, feedback.
I have watched friends become millionaire entrepreneurs without finding satisfaction in their lives because they did not receive the necessary feedback for personal growth. On the other hand, I have seen friends become personal trainers in small towns, training a limited number of clients and earning little, yet feeling incredibly satisfied with their work. It’s not just about the end result; it’s about the means and the journey. The differences between these individuals are so obvious that you only need to observe them, or be in their presence, to understand.
It may seem like a "comfort zone" idea, but it is crucial to surround ourselves with positive stimulation and feedback in our daily routines. It is essential to have positive people around us: the postman, the cleaning staff, the owner of a local bar, an ever-optimistic friend, or a loving pet. If we’re fortunate, we also have supportive family members and friends who encourage us. A positive work environment is equally important. For those lucky enough to find one, a partner who makes us feel special—like royalty—can help minimize negative experiences. If you don't have, please strive to find, and when you find em, no matter what other people say, if those people make you feel good, keep em in your "social portfolio".
This principle applies not only to romantic relationships but to life in general. If something in our environment makes us feel inferior or unhappy, we need to evaluate whether it is a temporary situation. We should consider whether it stems from societal pressures—such as the need to buy a new car (an induced need from external sources)—or from an internal desire—like seeking intimacy.
In both cases, it is important to evaluate our circumstances, plan accordingly, and take action.
I was bullied at school for my short stature. By my own decision, I chose to stay in my city anyway, where now everyone who grew up here knows who I am. I have changed and started to notice changes in how people treat me; those who once laughed at me now show interest. I have seen some of them take inspiration from my journey and improve themselves as well. There is still a long way to go, but I have demonstrated to those around me that the person they once knew was a product of their own perceptions—not mine. I transformed that reality and now receive different feedback; life is different and more satisfying. Also I have more women into my life, or at least interested into my person.
So do everything you can to seek out the positive feedback you want in life!
P.S.: This theory comes from my personal experience, and I would be happy to hear your honest thoughts on it.
We can be tall, handsome, and wealthy individuals living in New York, where these characteristics are common, yet still feel dissatisfied. Conversely, we might be short, overweight, bald, and poor, living in a simpler context where we feel good and, above all, are made to feel good by others.
Our life experiences are influenced by the actions we take, the events we encounter, and the context in which we find ourselves—space, age, and time. Finally, it is essential to consider the responses we receive; that is, feedback.
I have watched friends become millionaire entrepreneurs without finding satisfaction in their lives because they did not receive the necessary feedback for personal growth. On the other hand, I have seen friends become personal trainers in small towns, training a limited number of clients and earning little, yet feeling incredibly satisfied with their work. It’s not just about the end result; it’s about the means and the journey. The differences between these individuals are so obvious that you only need to observe them, or be in their presence, to understand.
It may seem like a "comfort zone" idea, but it is crucial to surround ourselves with positive stimulation and feedback in our daily routines. It is essential to have positive people around us: the postman, the cleaning staff, the owner of a local bar, an ever-optimistic friend, or a loving pet. If we’re fortunate, we also have supportive family members and friends who encourage us. A positive work environment is equally important. For those lucky enough to find one, a partner who makes us feel special—like royalty—can help minimize negative experiences. If you don't have, please strive to find, and when you find em, no matter what other people say, if those people make you feel good, keep em in your "social portfolio".
This principle applies not only to romantic relationships but to life in general. If something in our environment makes us feel inferior or unhappy, we need to evaluate whether it is a temporary situation. We should consider whether it stems from societal pressures—such as the need to buy a new car (an induced need from external sources)—or from an internal desire—like seeking intimacy.
In both cases, it is important to evaluate our circumstances, plan accordingly, and take action.
I was bullied at school for my short stature. By my own decision, I chose to stay in my city anyway, where now everyone who grew up here knows who I am. I have changed and started to notice changes in how people treat me; those who once laughed at me now show interest. I have seen some of them take inspiration from my journey and improve themselves as well. There is still a long way to go, but I have demonstrated to those around me that the person they once knew was a product of their own perceptions—not mine. I transformed that reality and now receive different feedback; life is different and more satisfying. Also I have more women into my life, or at least interested into my person.
So do everything you can to seek out the positive feedback you want in life!
P.S.: This theory comes from my personal experience, and I would be happy to hear your honest thoughts on it.