Instant Messanging and Myspace

[Lordlaxative]

Many people out there are getting into both the myspace and instant messaging craze. In my personal opinion, NEVER USE EITHER. They are stand for the exact opposite of what you want to portray to girls. Now don't get me wrong, you could probably use IM for PU or what not, but people who use it for that are few and far between. Most guys go home log onto IM and then sign-on to myspace to see if they have any new "friend requests" or messages, which always sound something like this, "Dude you are so awesome. I like hanging out with you," "You look so cute in your pics <3," "Thanks for adding me as your friend,"...etc. Messages like these reak with insecurity. A real MAN doesn't need anyone to tell him he's attractive/funny/cool to be with, no, he already knows it! He needs no validation from others, he is happy with who he is, and doesn't need a number of "friends" to be cool. Also, MySpace leaves no mystery! She knows all about you from simply reading a page. IMing is just as bad because it says, "I have nothing better to do with my time than to sit at my computer and 'talk' to people because 'face-to-face' poses to much of a risk." Go hang out somewhere instead of wasting hours in front of a computer screen. Sure, IM can be used for PUs, but you lose 93% of the communication process (body language and tone of voice). It also totally screws over the element of being a challenge, because it says I have plenty of free time to sit around and no other women to hang out with except the ones on the internet (I mean that in two ways). Well, I'm going to get off my soap box now, but honestly try to stay away from these things as much as possible. They are in every way, counter-DJ. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong, this is just from personal experience.

 

[sexy_kuta]

its soo much addictive though

i hate it but its the easiest way to pick up girls,

but i found out the disadvantages.
-girls look different from pictures
-they're personality could be different
-u seem to find the same type of girls on the net(aw and stuff)

i met alot of girls and hit them up with dates off the net and i judge whenever i like them or not and so far i didnt find one that i liked

 

[Lordlaxative]

I agree about the addictiveness, and that's when the mystery dwindles. And about girls looking different, you're right on. If their fat, they do a face shot. If they have bad acne, they do a dark photo. If they have an ugly face, they do a boob/body shot, you get the picture. I would say if you want to do online dating, do a site like match or eharmony. These people usually are to busy to go to clubs and, therefore, have a life/job and are more interesting people as a whole. They also won't be as clingy and will understand when you have a life yourself. Of course, you'll also run into people who just post everywhere looking for a date, so I would check up on them before advancing to a 1-on-1 date.

 

[Cheat_LBJ]

Some people here sware by it, but as best I can tell, they only use it to meet women for quick sex.

I suspect that the vast majority of women on myspace are there because it is trendy and they have friends that suggested they sign up while bored one day. Those women are probably not interested in meeting you. There is a small minority of socially "awkward" women who use it as an avenue for meeting guys, and these women are likely easy lays because they are infrequently presented with opportunities to do so otherwise and are susceptible to being gamed.

I'd never use MySpace to meet women, but that's because if I'm going to spend time trying to get laid, I'm going to spend it on quality, attractive women -- not women who have to resort to hiding behind a computer.

And, above and beyond that, it's hard to get more nerdy than internet dating, and nerdy is the height of AFC.

 

[Spookey]

Im is worthless, in my opinion. It is accidental communication, it just so happens you are online at the same time. If either of you really gave a damn you would get up and call the other.
As for myspace, from what iv heard its some trendy teen skank “omg omg omg / Im so popular / your sooo cool / I luuurve you” ****e which really isn’t worth it as to get attention from the target you have to beat every other person who posted and she will still have in the back of her mind that you must be a boring person with nothing better to do than sit at a computer and browse a website make lame posts in a vain effort to get attention.

 

[Stud]

i'm not really all that big on myspace, but facebook is huge in college.

As for IMing, it seems to be harder for me now, because my sense of humor is awesome if you know me or can hear me being sarcastic and kidding. but with most new girls i meet, its hard to convey this in an instant message conversation, so i like to just use it to arrange meetings and whatnot.

 

[Q-Pid]

It's a means to an end.

If you're good at talking to women then Myspace/MSN shouldn't be a problem.

 

[Warlord]

Automatic response to myspace/instant messaging threads:

Instant Messaging and Myspace are gay.

 

[Mazeman11]

I have myspace and will be deleting it soon. MySpace has made me a lazy bastard.

But let me ask you. Where do you meet women if you're new in a city and don't know anyone?

 

[Cheat_LBJ]

Originally posted by Mazeman11
I have myspace and will be deleting it soon. MySpace has made me a lazy bastard.

But let me ask you. Where do you meet women if you're new in a city and don't know anyone?

Network out -- meet guys in the city who have female friends. Those female friends know other women. Get yourself connected into some sort of a social network that can give you access to new people, events to meet people at (parties, nights out, etc.), and some social proofing at those events.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

Man the net is more addictive than anything else in the world.I don't know what it is about having anonymity that gets people's ****s hard.


It does make people lazy and crazy.I'm thinking about logging off for good.

 

[Warlord]

Here is my obligatory " Instant Messaging & MySpace is Gay " retort.

 

[oranges]

Meeting girls online is no good, because they havent met you in person before, which makes them back out at the last moment.

 

[Abbott]

You don't need it.

I have AIM, but I use it infrequently.

I used to have a Myspace account for a few months, but it got cancelled because apparently I did something the owners/operators didn't like. They said that I violated the T.O.S., but after reading the T.O.S. I learned that it basically said that they could do whatever they want.

I didn't need it before, and I don't need it now. I don't think that I miss it. If I really need to contact someone, I've got my trusty mobile telephone.


Ben