Aurora Demon
Senior Don Juan
Water — Inner Game Mastery.
(Water is an alias I use elsewhere)
I think this may be my last post on inner game, at least for a while. These are all the breakthroughs I’ve made, along with the content of my other inner game posts.
But this post has the highest quality of information.
Sources:
— Psycho-cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz.
— The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle.
— Awaken The Giant Within by Tony Robbins.
— Your Erroneous Zones by Dr. Wayne Dyer.
— Pulling Your Own Strings by Dr. Wayne Dyer.
— The Psychology of Achievement by Brian Tracy.
— Blink by Malcolm Gladwell.
— The Science of Happiness by Stefan Klein.
— The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida.
This has to do with the improvement of what happens inside you.
Not what you say or do.
But the mindsets and beliefs of what is happening inside you that makes what happens outside you manifest.
Small changes in inner game can result in massive changes in your outer game.
Manifestations of bad inner game:
— Breaking eye contact at wrong moments.
— Inability to sexually escalate.
— Inability to cause high level attraction.
A real woman just knows what a real man is.
“Thin-slicing”, aka “rapid cognition”, where someone makes generalizations about you based on small pieces of information.
Quality women will know if your inner game is good, it’s not entirely about what you say or the material you use, it’s more heavily influenced by your nonverbals.
Your tonality, the way you move, the way you talk, your posture, how you handle rejections.
The conscious human mind can only hold one thought at a time.
At some point in the interaction, she will see you for the real you.
“A great guitar player can recognize another great guitar player just by listening to a few notes.”
Inner game is necessary for the inner strength and go through the process of learning game and staying clean inside.
The process is full of peaks, valleys, and plateaus.
The learning curve is so high in the beginning.
Bad inner game allows external factors like how girls react to you affect you much more deeply than a normal reaction to a rejection.
Getting your inner game right creates massive momentum for your entire life.
“Long term success or long term failure are determined by how many negative thoughts or negative emotions you host all day long.”
— Brian Tracy.
The more turmoil you have inside, the more turmoil you have outside.
The Goal: Just become a really naturally attractive person.
At really high levels just try to internalize the principles of good inner game.
You can use the lines and routines as “firecrackers”, but the real heat is brought by who you are as a person, and the understanding that you’re an attractive man.
The ways to get good at anything is to acquire:
1. New knowledge.
2. New mentors.
3. New experiences.
Percent breakdown:
— 80% experiences.
— 10% knowledge.
— 10% mentors.
“A drop of experience is worth a bucket full of knowledge.”
Knowledge without action is nothing.
Genuine and deep love of women is a requirement.
Resentment towards women or any misogyny will guarantee bad results.
“Quit saying you know things. Quit saying I know that, I’ve heard that.”
“If you aren’t living it, if you can’t do it, then you don’t know it. You just heard it somewhere.”
“Happiness is progress.”
Positive reference experiences in-field are required for improving inner game.
Set goals for each time you go out.
Example of how to set goals:
— 3 low level goals that you can easily reach.
— 1 goal that is pushing yourself a little bit.
— 1 very high level goal that would be awesome if you accomplished it, but it doesn’t matter if you don’t.
Learning inner game is mostly untiring bad beliefs in your head.
99% if your beliefs aren’t yours, you got them from someone else.
Knowing that something is possible causes an inner shift that greatly influences your outer game.
Not even believing that you can currently do it, but simply knowing that a specific action (for example, that you can lay girls the same night you met them) is possible, your results change.
Starting a success journal that lists all your wins, even small ones, helps.
Regularly journaling your thoughts and inner dialogues helps.
Have massive integrity.
Have really strong values that you will not delineate from.
The cleaner your inner game is the more you attract people with cleaner inner game.
Example situation #1: You’re sitting in a car with someone and there’s an awkward silence. The other person says, “I like this song” but you can tell they’re just saying it to fill the silence. They don’t actually like the song. It was said/done just to avoid their uncomfortableness with the silence.
Example situation #2: You’re sitting in a car with someone and a song comes on that you genuinely like and you say, “I like this song.”
The second situation, the statement is said from a genuine place, while the first situation is purely out of insecurity.
Mirror neurons are in the brain and it makes you feel some of the feelings that someone in your proximity is feeling.
Be aware of this phenomenon and use it to your advantage.
Emotions are contagious, if you’re feeling positive emotions then women will catch some of those positive emotions.
Women have more sensitive mirror neurons, so if you’re uncomfortable, they’ll feel your discomfort, and vice versa.
In a study, researchers poked someone’s hand with a sharp object and scanned to see what parts of the brain were activated by the pain.
When someone watched a video of a persons hand poked with a sharp object in the exact same place, scanning showed their brains activated the exact same locations as the person’s brain who actually got their hand poked.
You should always be pushing your beliefs to the next level.
If you have reference experiences with approaching and succeeding with 6s and you’re confident in being able to consistently achieve that, then start approaching 7s and upgrade your beliefs.
Simultaneously, filter out activities and events that do not reinforce the beliefs that you want to have.
A lot of life is learning how to trick your brain.
Learn how to use dopamine to improve your life.
The 2 times you get a big hit of dopamine:
— During the process of something. (in the middle of working on something)
— Upon task completion. (when you complete a goal)
Always be reading good new books to acquire new paradigms.
What gets measured, gets done.
Know what you need to work on in regards to your inner game and outer game.
And have a game plan / map out how you’re going to work on these issues.
Keep track of questions you regularly ask yourself.
Learn to ask empowering and resourceful questions.
Reduce and stop the limiting questions that you ask yourself.
Example resourceful question about your limiting beliefs:
— Limiting Belief: “I can’t get with hot women.”
— Resourceful Question: Is there any guy in the world who is as attractive as me or less attractive with a similar lifestyle that is getting hot women?
— The Answer: Obviously yes if you apply basic logic and statistical probabilities of circumstances.
Bad habit that you need to stop:
— Making excuses.
— Blaming other people.
— Stop comparing yourself to other people.
— Stop competing with other people.
One of the biggest obstacles to inner game growth is self-deception, avoiding reality, or not confronting hard truths.
Be brutally honest with yourself.
When something becomes painful to think about, most people reduce awareness, but pain is an indicator to open your eyes wider and increase awareness of painful truths.
Become internally validated.
Only compete with yourself.
“The quality of your life is determined by the questions you ask yourself.”
— Tony Robbins
You MUST BE IN-FIELD to improve inner game.
No amount of books or inner game programs or pick up programs will help your inner game if you’re not also out there doing approaches.
A big mistake some guys make is: Taking a break from going out or doing approaches, in order to work on their inner game.
This DOES NOT WORK.
(Water is an alias I use elsewhere)
I think this may be my last post on inner game, at least for a while. These are all the breakthroughs I’ve made, along with the content of my other inner game posts.
But this post has the highest quality of information.
Sources:
— Psycho-cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz.
— The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle.
— Awaken The Giant Within by Tony Robbins.
— Your Erroneous Zones by Dr. Wayne Dyer.
— Pulling Your Own Strings by Dr. Wayne Dyer.
— The Psychology of Achievement by Brian Tracy.
— Blink by Malcolm Gladwell.
— The Science of Happiness by Stefan Klein.
— The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida.
This has to do with the improvement of what happens inside you.
Not what you say or do.
But the mindsets and beliefs of what is happening inside you that makes what happens outside you manifest.
Small changes in inner game can result in massive changes in your outer game.
Manifestations of bad inner game:
— Breaking eye contact at wrong moments.
— Inability to sexually escalate.
— Inability to cause high level attraction.
A real woman just knows what a real man is.
“Thin-slicing”, aka “rapid cognition”, where someone makes generalizations about you based on small pieces of information.
Quality women will know if your inner game is good, it’s not entirely about what you say or the material you use, it’s more heavily influenced by your nonverbals.
Your tonality, the way you move, the way you talk, your posture, how you handle rejections.
The conscious human mind can only hold one thought at a time.
At some point in the interaction, she will see you for the real you.
“A great guitar player can recognize another great guitar player just by listening to a few notes.”
Inner game is necessary for the inner strength and go through the process of learning game and staying clean inside.
The process is full of peaks, valleys, and plateaus.
The learning curve is so high in the beginning.
Bad inner game allows external factors like how girls react to you affect you much more deeply than a normal reaction to a rejection.
Getting your inner game right creates massive momentum for your entire life.
“Long term success or long term failure are determined by how many negative thoughts or negative emotions you host all day long.”
— Brian Tracy.
The more turmoil you have inside, the more turmoil you have outside.
The Goal: Just become a really naturally attractive person.
At really high levels just try to internalize the principles of good inner game.
You can use the lines and routines as “firecrackers”, but the real heat is brought by who you are as a person, and the understanding that you’re an attractive man.
The ways to get good at anything is to acquire:
1. New knowledge.
2. New mentors.
3. New experiences.
Percent breakdown:
— 80% experiences.
— 10% knowledge.
— 10% mentors.
“A drop of experience is worth a bucket full of knowledge.”
Knowledge without action is nothing.
Genuine and deep love of women is a requirement.
Resentment towards women or any misogyny will guarantee bad results.
“Quit saying you know things. Quit saying I know that, I’ve heard that.”
“If you aren’t living it, if you can’t do it, then you don’t know it. You just heard it somewhere.”
“Happiness is progress.”
Positive reference experiences in-field are required for improving inner game.
Set goals for each time you go out.
Example of how to set goals:
— 3 low level goals that you can easily reach.
— 1 goal that is pushing yourself a little bit.
— 1 very high level goal that would be awesome if you accomplished it, but it doesn’t matter if you don’t.
Learning inner game is mostly untiring bad beliefs in your head.
99% if your beliefs aren’t yours, you got them from someone else.
Knowing that something is possible causes an inner shift that greatly influences your outer game.
Not even believing that you can currently do it, but simply knowing that a specific action (for example, that you can lay girls the same night you met them) is possible, your results change.
Starting a success journal that lists all your wins, even small ones, helps.
Regularly journaling your thoughts and inner dialogues helps.
Have massive integrity.
Have really strong values that you will not delineate from.
The cleaner your inner game is the more you attract people with cleaner inner game.
Example situation #1: You’re sitting in a car with someone and there’s an awkward silence. The other person says, “I like this song” but you can tell they’re just saying it to fill the silence. They don’t actually like the song. It was said/done just to avoid their uncomfortableness with the silence.
Example situation #2: You’re sitting in a car with someone and a song comes on that you genuinely like and you say, “I like this song.”
The second situation, the statement is said from a genuine place, while the first situation is purely out of insecurity.
Mirror neurons are in the brain and it makes you feel some of the feelings that someone in your proximity is feeling.
Be aware of this phenomenon and use it to your advantage.
Emotions are contagious, if you’re feeling positive emotions then women will catch some of those positive emotions.
Women have more sensitive mirror neurons, so if you’re uncomfortable, they’ll feel your discomfort, and vice versa.
In a study, researchers poked someone’s hand with a sharp object and scanned to see what parts of the brain were activated by the pain.
When someone watched a video of a persons hand poked with a sharp object in the exact same place, scanning showed their brains activated the exact same locations as the person’s brain who actually got their hand poked.
You should always be pushing your beliefs to the next level.
If you have reference experiences with approaching and succeeding with 6s and you’re confident in being able to consistently achieve that, then start approaching 7s and upgrade your beliefs.
Simultaneously, filter out activities and events that do not reinforce the beliefs that you want to have.
A lot of life is learning how to trick your brain.
Learn how to use dopamine to improve your life.
The 2 times you get a big hit of dopamine:
— During the process of something. (in the middle of working on something)
— Upon task completion. (when you complete a goal)
Always be reading good new books to acquire new paradigms.
What gets measured, gets done.
Know what you need to work on in regards to your inner game and outer game.
And have a game plan / map out how you’re going to work on these issues.
Keep track of questions you regularly ask yourself.
Learn to ask empowering and resourceful questions.
Reduce and stop the limiting questions that you ask yourself.
Example resourceful question about your limiting beliefs:
— Limiting Belief: “I can’t get with hot women.”
— Resourceful Question: Is there any guy in the world who is as attractive as me or less attractive with a similar lifestyle that is getting hot women?
— The Answer: Obviously yes if you apply basic logic and statistical probabilities of circumstances.
Bad habit that you need to stop:
— Making excuses.
— Blaming other people.
— Stop comparing yourself to other people.
— Stop competing with other people.
One of the biggest obstacles to inner game growth is self-deception, avoiding reality, or not confronting hard truths.
Be brutally honest with yourself.
When something becomes painful to think about, most people reduce awareness, but pain is an indicator to open your eyes wider and increase awareness of painful truths.
Become internally validated.
Only compete with yourself.
“The quality of your life is determined by the questions you ask yourself.”
— Tony Robbins
You MUST BE IN-FIELD to improve inner game.
No amount of books or inner game programs or pick up programs will help your inner game if you’re not also out there doing approaches.
A big mistake some guys make is: Taking a break from going out or doing approaches, in order to work on their inner game.
This DOES NOT WORK.