Inner game boot camp

[Mistic]

I know the ingredients that led me to "arrive." I endured my own "inner game boot camp," and I can look back and see what led to my accelerated development. Although my personal path was appropriate for only me, I would like to see others share in the same joy and freedom to play with women that comes with a solid core. Perhaps we can co-create a recipe for developing real inner game.

A Zen recipe for artists may be a helpful incite. Zen believes that to be a true genuine artist, you must spend years studying and learning the fundamentals of drawing and painting.

Next you spend years forgetting the fundamentals, at which time you dont draw or paint ever.

During this time, the fundamentals get ingrained into your entire being. When you no longer consciously rely and your precise hand, or mastery of color, it becomes a natural, internal quality.

Only then can you return to create master works.

 

[izza]

That is a boot camp this site sorely needs. I think ingredient number 1 - before all others - is talking about sex - in a serious way - with friends and family. If I were to create a boot camp about inner game, one major ingredient would be telling people the truth about desires, turn-ons and masturbation. I just discussed masturbation with my lesbian friend for the first time - I thought she was afraid of penises so I was uncomfortable to bring it up. Anyway, it was really great, and so sexually liberating, you know?

Most DJs I know have the support of their parents in what they do, and are completely open about their lifestyle with everyone they care about.

This is a HUGELY neglected part of inner game. It is almost completely neglected. And yet how are you going to approach some strange girl and be a sexual person if you can't even speak rationally about sex to your own parents, and friends?! I guess it's possible, but it would take a lot of dedication.

Another aspect of inner game understanding and accepting one's emotions.

Another is bodily relaxation. If you can relax your body at the moment of approach, or at the date, or when it's time to kiss - it makes everything much easier.

Izza

 

[Mistic]

That is a boot camp this site sorely needs. I think ingredient number 1 - before all others - is talking about sex - in a serious way - with friends and family. If I were to create a boot camp about inner game, one major ingredient would be telling people the truth about desires, turn-ons and masturbation. I just discussed masturbation with my lesbian friend for the first time - I thought she was afraid of penises so I was uncomfortable to bring it up. Anyway, it was really great, and so sexually liberating, you know?

Most DJs I know have the support of their parents in what they do, and are completely open about their lifestyle with everyone they care about.

This is a HUGELY neglected part of inner game. It is almost completely neglected. And yet how are you going to approach some strange girl and be a sexual person if you can't even speak rationally about sex to your own parents, and friends?! I guess it's possible, but it would take a lot of dedication.

Another aspect of inner game understanding and accepting one's emotions.

Another is bodily relaxation. If you can relax your body at the moment of approach, or at the date, or when it's time to kiss - it makes everything much easier.

Izza

These are some very interesting points Izza. I have always had open communication with my parents about sex. When I was 13 my mom encouraged me read a book on how to please women in bed. I have used those techniques to present day. And when I was 14 my father took me to a place where it was easy to meet women. I never thought of how important of a role this has played for my development.

Something similar a very older woman explained to me about inner game is the act of forgiving and loving your mother. It sounds a little corny, but if you are holding a grudge against your mom, you will truly ave a hard time liking women.

I forgot about this thread. Hopefully we will get some more interesting dynamic info here.

Thanks

 

[izza]

Thanks man. I will have to think about forgiving and loving my poor mama. Maybe I can do better there.

I am always amazed at people who are open with their family about dating and sex. I think it is healthy and hugely beneficial.

Growing up, oh please, my parents never mentioned sex or really talked about girls or dating. My mom told me I was attractive, which was nice and, to some degree, irrelevant. I wasn't getting women and I remember feeling that if I'm attractive on the outside, there must be something wrong on the inside. I began to fear that the real me would chase women away. That is natural and a pretty tough feeling to exterminate. I still feel that way - all the time. I know a lot of people who say they are open books and very few who are. I'm not.

But in the last few months I started telling my parents about the dates I was going on, about making out, about sex. They were stunned. They said nothing. I told them individually too. They changed the topic. It was horribly awkward. But fvck it, honestly. It is healthy for me to tell them, and they need to learn how to hear about it. I talk about what I'm thinking, and that's what I'm thinking about so that's what I say.

Really awkward though lol. On the bright side, sex doesn't feel like a secret anymore. That's a great feeling.

Izza