Infidelity - from the outside looking in

[Between_The_Lines]

Tonight marked the second time in less than a week in which I was 'the guy' a girl in a relationship cheated on her boyfriend with.

First case - run into a girl at a party, second time I've ever interacted with this chick, tell her how much I like my friends apartment, she tells me her apartment is nicer, invites me over, we fool around, and before we have sex she stops me and tells me that she can't go proceed because she has a boyfriend

Second case - ex from my first serious relationship (was with her for almost five years, been a little over five years since we broke up) reached out to me today and asked if I want to grab a beer. I agree. She's been dating a guy seven months now, judging by what I see of her life on Instagram, it looks like she's really into him. Things first took an interesting twist when we were seated and he called. I feigned aloofness, but I was curious to see how she'd handle telling him of her wherabouts. She told him she was at a nearby sports grill, but she never made any mention of me. He called again about an hour later, and she made up a story on the fly about how she was out with a friend who happened to be in the bathroom. He wasn't buying it, asked her to put her friend on the phone, and she was exposed as a liar. As I drove her home, she couldn't stop crying, saying over and over "this was the guy I'm supposed to marry!" Strictly speaking, no, she didn't exactly cheat, but you know what they say - perception is reality. If I were her boyfriend, I'd probably be furious too.

I constantly suspected my (last) ex, the one I was just broke up with, of at least emotionally cheating on me, either hung up on an ex and/or preparing to swing onto the next branch while still with me. This same girl emotionally cheated on another guy with me too (all while I remained ignorant to the fact that she had a boyfriend to begin with as she'd sext me).

Now, I've never been cheated on (that I know of), but this is merely a different side to the same coin. My question is: have any of you witnessed so much cheating, or were also the guy another taken girl cheated on her guy with, that the repulsion with women's propensity to blindly follow her flighty, irrational impulses made entering into an exclusive relationship completely anathema to you?

 

[In2theGame]

Tonight marked the second time in less than a week in which I was 'the guy' a girl in a relationship cheated on her boyfriend with.

First case - run into a girl at a party, second time I've ever interacted with this chick, tell her how much I like my friends apartment, she tells me her apartment is nicer, invites me over, we fool around, and before we have sex she stops me and tells me that she can't go proceed because she has a boyfriend

Second case - ex from my first serious relationship (was with her for almost five years, been a little over five years since we broke up) reached out to me today and asked if I want to grab a beer. I agree. She's been dating a guy seven months now, judging by what I see of her life on Instagram, it looks like she's really into him. Things first took an interesting twist when we were seated and he called. I feigned aloofness, but I was curious to see how she'd handle telling him of her wherabouts. She told him she was at a nearby sports grill, but she never made any mention of me. He called again about an hour later, and she made up a story on the fly about how she was out with a friend who happened to be in the bathroom. He wasn't buying it, asked her to put her friend on the phone, and she was exposed as a liar. As I drove her home, she couldn't stop crying, saying over and over "this was the guy I'm supposed to marry!" Strictly speaking, no, she didn't exactly cheat, but you know what they say - perception is reality. If I were her boyfriend, I'd probably be furious too.

I constantly suspected my (last) ex, the one I was just broke up with, of at least emotionally cheating on me, either hung up on an ex and/or preparing to swing onto the next branch while still with me. This same girl emotionally cheated on another guy with me too (all while I remained ignorant to the fact that she had a boyfriend to begin with as she'd sext me).

Now, I've never been cheated on (that I know of), but this is merely a different side to the same coin. My question is: have any of you witnessed so much cheating, or were also the guy another taken girl cheated on her guy with, that the repulsion with women's propensity to blindly follow her flighty, irrational impulses made entering into an exclusive relationship completely anathema to you?

If i told you all the things ive witnessed with girls cheating with me or a friend or in general, it would probably make you very angry. I try to suppress my disgust and anger with what I know but deep down I cant. Right now i am talking to a girl i used to date a year ago, she told me she has a boyfriend but we still sext and talk dirty to each other with pictures. I admit i fell for this girl before and i still like her a lot lol We are trying to set something up to meet up together. I dunno though, i might just do the noble thing and say lets get together if things dont work out with your BF.

Anyway,... This day and age is very devious and untrustworthy because of the multiple technological ways that can be used for cheating. Back then cheating was still going on but there was no email, text messages, no internet chats, No cell phones etc. Women LOVE those little gadgets. Overall, Its a dangerous game out there when it comes to full commitment because my ex girlfriend was, as far as i know, set on Marrying me. Turns out she began talking to a guy she knew on Yahoo chat and ran off to Marry him immediately after breaking up our 5 year LTR.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Ive witnessed , partaken and been the victim of many acts of cheating

Women are naturally greedy they always want MORE , they’re pussvys always want more , they’re purses always want more and they’re wardrobes always want more

I remember once me and a friend where on a weekend out of town , we where out one night and ran into this chick she was a trainee teacher or something, HB 7

Anyway after a couple of drinks she was flirting with both of us so we asked her if she wanted to come back to our hotel

We both fuked her raw until the following morning ,cvmed in her and all over her the lot , she was absolute filth

She asked for a lift back in the morning and we asked where she needed to go

Her reply was “ oh just back to my boyfriends place if that’s ok”

We couldn’t believe it lol , she didn’t even care she had just taken 2 guys c0cks and was about to go home to her BF and act as though nothing had happened

Ive watched chicks try it on with my bestfreinds , and I’ve watched my best friends chicks try it on with me

Very few of them have any solid morals

I’m currently in night college with a 28yr old mother with a boyfriend we get along great but id never want anything more from her she’s not my type

This Saturday just gone she asks if she can come over mine for a few “drinks”

I refuse and say i have to work in the morning,....... she’s still been texting me all week

The things a low value woman will do for male attention are actually Unbelievable

 

[captain55]

Don't **** chicks with boyfriends dude. It's not right, it makes you look desperate in her eyes, and it shows a huge lack of pride. Too many single chicks out there for me to waste my time on some lying **** *****. How do you bang a chick knowing that she got railed by her boyfriend earlier that same day?

 

[Between_The_Lines]

Don't **** chicks with boyfriends dude. It's not right, it makes you look desperate in her eyes, and it shows a huge lack of pride. Too many single chicks out there for me to waste my time on some lying **** *****. How do you bang a chick knowing that she got railed by her boyfriend earlier that same day?

She revealed the boyfriend bit immediately before sealing the deal, something she should have brought up before taking me a few floors down to "see her place". In fact, she should have never invited me down to begin with. If I were her boyfriend, I would have crucified her with that alone - why the fvck are you bringing a guy over to 'check out your place'? ...at midnight on a Saturday... why??? Trust me, it made me sick to discover that she had a boyfriend after how far it had gone.

 

[expos]

Ive witnessed , partaken and been the victim of many acts of cheating

Same here. I've been cheated on once and been the victim on several occasions of a woman eyeing someone else up while we were committed.

I've also messed around with two girls who had boyfriends and didn't feel all that bad about it. I guess my karma was my ex-wife marrying the guy she was trying get with while we were married. I guess her bad Karma was returned in the form of me getting her out of my life and me dating someone better looking.

The most disgusting act I ever witnessed wasn't exactly cheating, but close. I was in Texas visiting an old friend and we went out with a few girls. One of the girls was married and had two kids, but she had this massive crush on my friend's cousin. She kept asking if she was going to see him at the club that we were about to go to. My friend disclosed that she always does this crap and has been trying to sleep with him for about a year with no luck, as he doesn't care for her. The sad thing was that her faithful husband was at home, taking care of their kids (one of them was sick) that night and she was angling to screw this guy. After a few beers, I somehow resisted the urge to call her a slut to her face.

In every relationship something is missing. It's the 80/20 rule. 80 percent of the time you are the perfect guy with a perfect job and the perfect body and you do everything right. 20 percent of the time you are a failure, and the woman will focus on that measly 20 percent as the major reason "her life" is not what it should be. This is why I believe cheating is so rampant. It's the perceived feeling that they are missing out of something they should have.

A lot of women are toxic, and you've got to keep one finger hovering around the eject button.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

I mentioned this before, women with boyfriends, or my guys side chicks love me.
They are always flirting and giving me the eye. And I am not exclusive to this situation it happens to some of my other friends with different girls in different situations.

 

[captain55]

Same here. I've been cheated on once and been the victim on several occasions of a woman eyeing someone else up while we were committed.

I've also messed around with two girls who had boyfriends and didn't feel all that bad about it. I guess my karma was my ex-wife marrying the guy she was trying get with while we were married. I guess her bad Karma was returned in the form of me getting her out of my life and me dating someone better looking.

The most disgusting act I ever witnessed wasn't exactly cheating, but close. I was in Texas visiting an old friend and we went out with a few girls. One of the girls was married and had two kids, but she had this massive crush on my friend's cousin. She kept asking if she was going to see him at the club that we were about to go to. My friend disclosed that she always does this crap and has been trying to sleep with him for about a year with no luck, as he doesn't care for her. The sad thing was that her faithful husband was at home, taking care of their kids (one of them was sick) that night and she was angling to screw this guy. After a few beers, I somehow resisted the urge to call her a slut to her face.

In every relationship something is missing. It's the 80/20 rule. 80 percent of the time you are the perfect guy with a perfect job and the perfect body and you do everything right. 20 percent of the time you are a failure, and the woman will focus on that measly 20 percent as the major reason "her life" is not what it should be. This is why I believe cheating is so rampant. It's the perceived feeling that they are missing out of something they should have.

A lot of women are toxic, and you've got to keep one finger hovering around the eject button.

This sucks, been there. I don't think any guy should take it too personally though it doest mean she's not attracted to you she's just human....not like we don't ever check out other women when we go out.

 

[nismo-4]

Don't **** chicks with boyfriends dude. It's not right, it makes you look desperate in her eyes, and it shows a huge lack of pride. Too many single chicks out there for me to waste my time on some lying **** *****. How do you bang a chick knowing that she got railed by her boyfriend earlier that same day?

Every chick has a boyfriend. Depends on her interest in you.

Hell, however far a man gets with a girl always depends on her interest level.

The OP was friendzoned in both cases. Those girls knew he was just an orbiter.

 

[JohnChops]

Been there bud, i had this one girl (i barley flirted with her ****ing nothing compared to what i usually do) and we were making out the next day. After that she invited me over to fvck and gave me a piece of pie afterwards, whilst she was on the phone with her bf.

 

[Zarky]

Remember, for the vast majority of women, sex is more a strategic/political tool than a pleasurable activity. Women have sex to cement social bonds, to get ahead in life, to attract mates, to get revenge on people, to boost their self-esteem... all sorts of things. Men usually have sex because it makes them feel good. Women have a whole host of reasons other than that.

So if a woman is having sex with you, ask yourself... how is she benefiting from this action? Other than your awesome technique and your foot-long shlong of course

 

[stevo]

Been there bud, i had this one girl (i barley flirted with her ****ing nothing compared to what i usually do) and we were making out the next day. After that she invited me over to fvck and gave me a piece of pie afterwards, whilst she was on the phone with her bf.

:crackup: Oh my world!

Girl was at my place and just before second round of seks, she calls her boyfriend to reschedule them meeting up and the dude was crying on the phone because she wasn't going to show up.

Funny thing is she'd still manage to sound "organized" while talking on the phone even if you were touching her with the dude not suspecting anything. These beaches have this art down to the T, literally!

Remember, for the vast majority of women, sex is more a strategic/political tool than a pleasurable activity. Women have sex to cement social bonds, to get ahead in life, to attract mates, to get revenge on people, to boost their self-esteem... all sorts of things. Men usually have sex because it makes them feel good

True sheet!

 

[AttackFormation]

I always thought my buddy's now-ex seemed to enjoy being friendly with me when we saw/talked to each other, which was only when I met up with my buddy. This guy is a successful salesman and was spoiling her. At some point she started grabbing my muscles and smiling when her boyfriend wasn't looking, but I didn't tell him because I figured it was too vague to go on and would just cause more trouble than good. At least she broke up with him...

Funny thing is she'd still manage to sound "organized" while talking on the phone even if you were touching her with the dude not suspecting anything. These beaches have this art down to the T, literally!

That's because they're made to find someone who will take care of them and cheat on that guy when they can. They're not doing more than their natural instincts tell them to. That's why the vast majority of women will say they want "something serious"... you can't cheat on someone unless you had commitment in the first place, they need it so they can cheat.

 

[skinnyguy]

There have been a lot of butthurt posts lately about women cheating. This is hypocrisy at best.

 

[mikey2012]

Don't be like this dude
http://sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=211343

 

[mikey2012]

:crackup: Oh my world!

Girl was at my place and just before second round of seks, she calls her boyfriend to reschedule them meeting up and the dude was crying on the phone because she wasn't going to show up.

Funny thing is she'd still manage to sound "organized" while talking on the phone even if you were touching her with the dude not suspecting anything. These beaches have this art down to the T, literally!




True sheet!

They can talk to them bf/hubby on the phone while you are fingering their pvssy and pretend nothing's happening.