"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Inadvertently offending girls

I_Only_Live_Once

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Does it ever happen to you where you say something innocent, and the girl takes offense to it and either stops talking to you or is turned-off? It just seems to happen to me from time-to-time and it's so annoying. I like to be myself so I'll talk without being guarded, but sometimes that backfires.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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mrRuckus

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i usually set it up from the very beginning that i say outlandish things.

i often get "you confuse me. i never know what to think of what you say."

it's fun and they don't get offended because they can't figure out if i really mean what i said or not. :)
 

KEddie

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Yeah, I'm the same way. But I figure if a girl takes stuff to seriously, I don't want to be with her in the first place.
 

SteveMcQ

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I find that if you mix it up with being polite from time to time it will really intrigue them because they can't figure you out.

I think you have to establish a difference though between speaking your mind and being an arrogant prick.
 
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