"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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In a strange relationship

KontrollerX

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Oh for Christ's sakes.

LastManStanding is right for once.

Listen to the old man.

This chick was trying to force you into her bareback because she's one of those types that thinks by you getting her pregnant it will make you stay with her.

And she was acting all over you as a manipulation to play on your emotions and sexual desire.

Its as plain as day.

Just use her up for sex and keep your emotions out of your dealings with her and for god's sake man keep up your plan of only hitting it when you've got the jimmy hat on.

Also that crap about saying its ok to do it bareback because she just had her period is just that...crap.

There's no way for you to know whether she's telling you the truth or not about that unless you know when she's supposed to go on her period and then be off of it.

This is all elementary stuff you should know already.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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KontrollerX said:
Oh for Christ's sakes.

LastManStanding is right for once.

Listen to the old man.

This chick was trying to force you into her bareback because she's one of those types that thinks by you getting her pregnant it will make you stay with her.

And she was acting all over you as a manipulation to play on your emotions and sexual desire.

Its as plain as day.

Just use her up for sex and keep your emotions out of your dealings with her and for god's sake man keep up your plan of only hitting it when you've got the jimmy hat on.

Also that crap about saying its ok to do it bareback because she just had her period is just that...crap.

There's no way for you to know whether she's telling you the truth or not about that unless you know when she's supposed to go on her period and then be off of it.

This is all elementary stuff you should know already.

I know when she had her period because I was with her when it started...while we were hanging out for a couple days straight. No offense...I"m sure that you know a lot about women, but that wasn't the reason she was acting all over me. There was a lot of stuff that I didn't put in my message because I was in a hurry. The reason was that I had built up a ton of tension in her before hand...trust me, I know my game....and now I know hers. She is not a hor either...you have to understand Korean women. They date a guy to marry him. She tried her hardest to convince me at first that she was this loose girl who swings around because she knows that a lot of western guys are scared to date a Korean girl because of how serious they get so fast. I will have a big talk with her tomorrow about i am down for dating on a serious level but that once my year here is up that is all she wrote.

Oh yeah, to the poster who said I sound desperate...not the case. I just dumped a Canadian girl after three months of dating because she was being too clingy and drove me crazy.

I'm not just looking for sex like most of the posters on here seem to be. Sex is great...but I'm 26 and am TIRED of having meaningless sex with different girls. Seriously, it gets old and is empty feeling.
 

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zinc64 said:
Any advice?

Yeah, I've got some advice for you...



RUN!


I was married to a crazy woman once and trust me, bro... you don't want none of that sh!t. Drop her like the hot potato she is and save yourself some skin on your a$$ while you still got it. You do not wanna' fall for a chick like that. I've been there. I can almost see the little glint in your eye from the way you're talking about her.

Hit that thang if you really have to , but make sure you quit it after you're done with it (I wouldn't because you really don't want her getting pregnant on you). Don't try to make her fall in love with you, either. Sounds like the only one who is falling in 'love' here is you. Damn.


KontrollerX said:
This chick was trying to force you into her bareback because she's one of those types that thinks by you getting her pregnant it will make you stay with her.
Amen. Been there... it sucks.

zinc64 said:
I'm not just looking for sex like most of the posters on here seem to be. Sex is great...but I'm 26 and am TIRED of having meaningless sex with different girls. Seriously, it gets old and is empty feeling.
Again... leave this one alone. Find a woman who is worthy of your love and who will love you back without all the high school bullsh!t!
 
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Aboleo said:
Yeah, I've got some advice for you...



RUN!


I was married to a crazy woman once and trust me, bro... you don't want none of that sh!t. Drop her like the hot potato she is and save yourself some skin on your a$$ while you still got it. You do not wanna' fall for a chick like that. I've been there. I can almost see the little glint in your eye from the way you're talking about her.

Hit that thang if you really have to , but make sure you quit it after you're done with it (I wouldn't because you really don't want her getting pregnant on you). Don't try to make her fall in love with you, either. Sounds like the only one who is falling in 'love' here is you. Damn.




Amen. Been there... it sucks.



Again... leave this one alone. Find a woman who is worthy of your love and who will love you back without all the high school bullsh!t!
Lol, I don't fall in love. Never had. It takes A LOT for me. I always get worried at times like this in the beginning of a relationship..but that never translates into falling in love for me....not what you would call an AFC. I like a lot of space...and that's why I always have to cut relationships off when they start to get thick.
 

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zinc64 said:
Lol, I don't fall in love. Never had. It takes A LOT for me. I always get worried at times like this in the beginning of a relationship..but that never translates into falling in love for me....not what you would call an AFC. I like a lot of space...and that's why I always have to cut relationships off when they start to get thick.
If that were true then you really wouldn't really care about making the chick fall for you, right? Besides, didn't you just say:


zinc64 said:
I'm not just looking for sex like most of the posters on here seem to be. Sex is great...but I'm 26 and am TIRED of having meaningless sex with different girls. Seriously, it gets old and is empty feeling.
You're tired of meaningless sex but at the same time you don't want love, either?- relax, man. No one is going to call you a pvssy for wanting love from a woman. It's normal. I'm not trying to call you an 'AFC' (which is just a stupid buzz word, anyways). I'm just a guy who has been in many bad situations with some pretty insane women. Thats all. I'm not perfect and I never will be. I have learned from my mistakes, though. Read my very first post on here and you'll see that I am no 'Don Juan'. I've ****ed up really bad in my life and I hate to see someone else making the same mistakes I did.

Back on topic,

You can't change crazy and you can't fix stupid. Trying to do either will only bring you down to that level... crazy, stupid, or both.

If the woman is crazy, cut all communications with her and find a sane, mature woman instead. Stop meeting women in bars and/or strip clubs. Try meeting a nurse or a school teacher instead (perferibly one who doesn't moonlight as a stripper). Life will be better for you in the long run. I dated ALOT of cheap, slutty women that I met in low places before learning this lesson...


Good luck.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Aboleo said:
If that were true then you really wouldn't really care about making the chick fall for you, right? Besides, didn't you just say:




You're tired of meaningless sex but at the same time you don't want love, either?- relax, man. No one is going to call you a pvssy for wanting love from a woman. It's normal. I'm not trying to call you an 'AFC' (which is just a stupid buzz word, anyways). I'm just a guy who has been in many bad situations with some pretty insane women. Thats all. I'm not perfect and I never will be. I have learned from my mistakes, though. Read my very first post on here and you'll see that I am no 'Don Juan'. I've ****ed up really bad in my life and I hate to see someone else making the same mistakes I did.

Back on topic,

You can't change crazy and you can't fix stupid. Trying to do either will only bring you down to that level... crazy, stupid, or both.

If the woman is crazy, cut all communications with her and find a sane, mature woman instead. Stop meeting women in bars and/or strip clubs. Try meeting a nurse or a school teacher instead (perferibly one who doesn't moonlight as a stripper). Life will be better for you in the long run. I dated ALOT of cheap, slutty women that I met in low places before learning this lesson...


Good luck.

Too late...she's my GF now. Turns out she was just REALLY scared of getting hurt. She is a hell of a cook and the sex the best I have ever had.
 

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zinc64 said:
Too late...she's my GF now. Turns out she was just REALLY scared of getting hurt. She is a hell of a cook and the sex the best I have ever had.
And let the drama begin. I can see it coming, the pedastool is already out.
 

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zinc64 said:
Too late...she's my GF now. Turns out she was just REALLY scared of getting hurt. She is a hell of a cook and the sex the best I have ever had.
I said it before and I'll say it again; you can't change crazy and you can't fix stupid. I rest my case.

Good luck, 'cause you're gonna' need it.:kick:
 

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Whatever, I'll take my chances. I have a nice backup if something starts to go wrong. Me and this girl have great chemistry and I understand where she is coming from.
 
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