backbreaker
Master Don Juan
I feel so good about myself. Long story as short as possible, the guy is a guy that lives in the neighboorhood. we are always throwing BBQ's and **** like that and invite everyone in the neirghboorhood to get to know peoploe, me and this dude just clicked about 2 years ago.
the guy is alot like me. he's a programmer by trade. also likee me, he doesn't particular care for the work. Last but not least, khe has something that he does care for, which for him is history. Him and i get together and can go for hours just talking about history, various subjects, the dude knows his **** and i'm always learning stuff from him. Anyway, he likes history so much, he wants to go back to school to get a degree in it, so he can be a history teacher. To quote him, that would "be a dream come true, lto go to work and talk about history all day long". But right now he's a programmer. I've even given him jobs in the past.
Anyway, like always,l the one thing that is holding him back more than anything.. he has come to grips with the loss of income. he makes close to 100k a year now, he would be cutting that alot if he went into history. h might have to sell his house. he's even okay with that. he's okay with living without alot of the things he has now, to chase this dream.
But. and there always is a but...
the girl, he's been dating off and on for 2 years now. she knows he likes history, but up unitl a month ago she thought it was just a past time. It's one of those things, you feel that you get the sense that she likes dating the idea of someone like ehim,l more than him. He's 33 years old, and by all means has his life together. She's I think 35 years old. he loves her very much and they are supposed to get married soon.
So, he has a younger sister that is in college. Last week she spent the night with him, i presume to get away from the house/have a date over or some ****, i don't know, anyway he ends up taking her to school and she has a history class. he figures he will sit in on it. By the end of the class he told me, he had made up his mind, lthis is it, i have to do this.
he is always complimenting me on how me and my wife get along and asks questions about how I get her to do this or how come she doesn't do that, and i tell him so he comes to me and tells me the situation.. basically, eh's afraid that she is going to leave if he chases his dream. she doesn't make as much money as he does and she likes the situation they are in.
I basically tell him look, you have to do whats best for you, and if she does not want to come along for the ride, than you 2 just weren't mean to be. doesn't mean she's a ***** or an *******, doesn't mean you are anything she is going to call you when you tell her, and make no mistake, she will call you every name in the book to get you to change your mind if she does not go along with it... but you have to live for you not for anyone else.
I'll be damned, if he didn't go to her earlier today and say look, this i what the **** i'm going to. i'm giong to quit work, i'm going to enroll for spring courses, i'm going to do part time programming work to keep bills paid, i most likely will try to sell the house but this ****, this is happening. you are either on board or you aren't.
she has spent all day basically trying to "talk sense" into him, and she called my wife (they are somewhat friends) asking what "****" i have told him lol.
by now, it's like he has made sense of it all.. he asks her, i thought you loved me? she said i do, and he says well if you love me don't you want to see me happy? this will make me happier than anything else possibly can make me and you are sitting here trying to talk me out of it.. that's not verbatim i'm paraphrasing... now he doesn't know if he wants to stay in the relationship.
everyone laid their cards on the table. he said look this is what i am going to do, l this is where i plan to be this is how i am going to get there.. if you do not agrees, that's fine, but i can't be with someone who isn't down for this.
curious to see how this plays out.
the guy is alot like me. he's a programmer by trade. also likee me, he doesn't particular care for the work. Last but not least, khe has something that he does care for, which for him is history. Him and i get together and can go for hours just talking about history, various subjects, the dude knows his **** and i'm always learning stuff from him. Anyway, he likes history so much, he wants to go back to school to get a degree in it, so he can be a history teacher. To quote him, that would "be a dream come true, lto go to work and talk about history all day long". But right now he's a programmer. I've even given him jobs in the past.
Anyway, like always,l the one thing that is holding him back more than anything.. he has come to grips with the loss of income. he makes close to 100k a year now, he would be cutting that alot if he went into history. h might have to sell his house. he's even okay with that. he's okay with living without alot of the things he has now, to chase this dream.
But. and there always is a but...
the girl, he's been dating off and on for 2 years now. she knows he likes history, but up unitl a month ago she thought it was just a past time. It's one of those things, you feel that you get the sense that she likes dating the idea of someone like ehim,l more than him. He's 33 years old, and by all means has his life together. She's I think 35 years old. he loves her very much and they are supposed to get married soon.
So, he has a younger sister that is in college. Last week she spent the night with him, i presume to get away from the house/have a date over or some ****, i don't know, anyway he ends up taking her to school and she has a history class. he figures he will sit in on it. By the end of the class he told me, he had made up his mind, lthis is it, i have to do this.
he is always complimenting me on how me and my wife get along and asks questions about how I get her to do this or how come she doesn't do that, and i tell him so he comes to me and tells me the situation.. basically, eh's afraid that she is going to leave if he chases his dream. she doesn't make as much money as he does and she likes the situation they are in.
I basically tell him look, you have to do whats best for you, and if she does not want to come along for the ride, than you 2 just weren't mean to be. doesn't mean she's a ***** or an *******, doesn't mean you are anything she is going to call you when you tell her, and make no mistake, she will call you every name in the book to get you to change your mind if she does not go along with it... but you have to live for you not for anyone else.
I'll be damned, if he didn't go to her earlier today and say look, this i what the **** i'm going to. i'm giong to quit work, i'm going to enroll for spring courses, i'm going to do part time programming work to keep bills paid, i most likely will try to sell the house but this ****, this is happening. you are either on board or you aren't.
she has spent all day basically trying to "talk sense" into him, and she called my wife (they are somewhat friends) asking what "****" i have told him lol.
by now, it's like he has made sense of it all.. he asks her, i thought you loved me? she said i do, and he says well if you love me don't you want to see me happy? this will make me happier than anything else possibly can make me and you are sitting here trying to talk me out of it.. that's not verbatim i'm paraphrasing... now he doesn't know if he wants to stay in the relationship.
everyone laid their cards on the table. he said look this is what i am going to do, l this is where i plan to be this is how i am going to get there.. if you do not agrees, that's fine, but i can't be with someone who isn't down for this.
curious to see how this plays out.
