"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Improving Conversation Skills

danthemann

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Lately i have come across a way to help yourself build conversation skills. Personally I have no problem in confidence but I am rather a quiet person and therefore its tough for me to carryout a decent conversation without a lot of silence.
Chat rooms. The good thing is people are always in here for one or two things. to chat...or for some kinky cyber bs. Usually you can just ask if anyone whos bored wants to talk and usually you get some responses. Eventually you start stringing questions together and statements together and you get to know the person better and you find ways to make a conversation really flow.
The only bad part i see to this is the internet part. Your not conversing face to face and thus it may not benefit people who lack confidence as much. But you can get into cold approaching sort of. I message a couple of girls with something i would say if i were face to face with them. Surprsingly ive come across people whove rejected talking to me. so it can help with getting over rejection in a way.
Any other tips are appreciated as i know i cant live off chat rooms building conversation skills.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Sometimes you have to pick away at the conversation. If one topic doesn't work, try another one. It's eventually like opening a can of worms. I noticed this on thanksgiving while I was trying to strike up a conversation with my relatives whom I haven't seen in forever who are in a different age group. Once you have brought something up that someone is passionate about, you build connections. You've stepped into their world a little bit. But sometimes you have to keep at it. I even had my cold emo cousin telling me all these amazing stories about her band and her new piercings....Some people are just a little reserved but once you cross their barriers you'll find that people have a lot to say.
 

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danthemann said:
Lately i have come across a way to help yourself build conversation skills. Personally I have no problem in confidence but I am rather a quiet person and therefore its tough for me to carryout a decent conversation without a lot of silence.
Chat rooms. The good thing is people are always in here for one or two things. to chat...or for some kinky cyber bs. Usually you can just ask if anyone whos bored wants to talk and usually you get some responses. Eventually you start stringing questions together and statements together and you get to know the person better and you find ways to make a conversation really flow.
The only bad part i see to this is the internet part. Your not conversing face to face and thus it may not benefit people who lack confidence as much. But you can get into cold approaching sort of. I message a couple of girls with something i would say if i were face to face with them. Surprsingly ive come across people whove rejected talking to me. so it can help with getting over rejection in a way.
Any other tips are appreciated as i know i cant live off chat rooms building conversation skills.
That will better your internet game, but conversation in real life and conversation on internet is so different. Body language, tone of voice, expressions come into play - that's most of the conversation right there.

If you really wanna better your conversation skills, talk to people in real life, hang out with them and meet some new people.

It's easy to hide behind your computer screen... that's why you won't benefit from it.
 
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