"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I'm travelling alone in the UK - design me a bootcamp!

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Hi guys

Im here alone in the UK for two weeks for work, and i've got to seize this as my opportunity to change. i dont know anyone here, apart from a few guys at work that i met for the first time, but i want to get over my social phobias of approaching people

so what should i do??
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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WC2

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You're in a different country man. You must be curious about it right? Why not just strike up conversation to be curious. Learn about someone's life. Don't even look at it from a pvssy getting mentality.
 

AtillaTheHun

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Yeah, just get out there and do stuff you've never done before. You're in a different country, no one knows you.
 
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come on guys, i need a bit more guidance than this...my objective isn't to necessarily get girls while i'm here...its to just to, well grow up a little and stop being such a wuss

this fear i have is not normal so i want to overcome it, as i suspect travel is going to be a big part of my career, so i damn well might as well get used to meeting new people
 

Warrior74

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Stop asking us to think for you, learn to think for yourself.

That being said. Make it a mission to talk to someone from every station of life. From high class, to middle class to the lower classes. See how many people of different ethnic backgrounds you can meet and find out what they like about living there and what they don't like. I always wanted to visit the UK and that's what I would do if I were there.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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BigJimbo

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Book a flight to Riga, Latvia or Tallinn, Estonia. God knows that there are enough British guys who have invaded those places. They go again and again and again. Annoying little pricks. Can't even speak any Russian.
 
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