I'm starting to feel like no one except my parents care (rant!)

[Ganondorf]

Me and my gf are long distance. I was planning a big VAlentines day weekeand with her starting this friday.


But unfortunately my car crapped out on me and now i can't go see her! this pisses me off to no end! i've been fighting for this weekend off for months and now that it's here my car dies??!! What the fvck!!?

so now my weekend is ruined because my gf has work on V-day and the day after and i can't get my car fixed to go see her before hand.

She's trying to help me. she really is, but i feel like she really isn't that concerned to see me. she could very well drive her ass up here instead. afterall, i was only going to see her for one day, why would it be so hard for her to do the same instead?? She's free.

It bothers me because she even pointed it out.

"oh baby, don't be mad. that kinda thing happens with cars. I can get my brother (a mechanic) to come see what's wrong with it.
plus if i really want to see you i could drive up there after work and stay the night" or you could come up here saturday with my friend and we can atleast exchange our gifts and spend alittle time together"

oh, so i guess you really don't want to see me THAT bad because i don't see you offering to drive up here!!! which she very well could!!


Maybe i'm just being a baby with all this. but i would think if someone really wants to see me and who says they love me so much and want to marry me then why not come see me?

That's what i would do in this situation if i could. Maybe i should stop being so selfless to people because they never find it in themselves to return the kindness, but instead soak it up and keep goin

end rant

 

[OneEyedJack]

"Maybe i should stop being so selfless to people because they never find it in themselves to return the kindness, but instead soak it up and keep goin"

Careful with the Martyr syndrome. Many people who do a lot for others feel they give too much of themselves and eventually come to resent that they aren't receiving payback. Sometimes, they don't receive reciprocation because they make it difficult or annoying when an effort is made.


What stopped you from getting her to drive up instead? "Hey baby, my car is in the ****ter, why don't you come up on Saturday?"

 

[LovelyLady]

"oh baby, don't be mad. that kinda thing happens with cars. 1. I can get my brother (a mechanic) to come see what's wrong with it. plus if i really want to see you 2. i could drive up there after work and stay the night" or
3. you could come up here saturday with my friend and we can atleast exchange our gifts and spend alittle time together"

She wants you to lead in how to solve it - she may have offered three ideas, but you are her Man - you decide how you want this handled and communicate your decision to her.

 

[sodbuster]

Read NO MORE MR. NICE GUY available at the web site with the same name. You'll see what you are doing to yourself and everyone around you.

YOU aren't a nice guy if you expect a return for being nice[sex etc.] or even the ability to feel superior to others. You're just another one of us azzholes with a different way of going about it.