I'm her first, but I want to bump it up a notch!

[WORKEROUTER]

I've been dating this girl for about three weeks now, and she is virgin. In fact, I was the first person to truly make out with her. Anyway, so far so good. I have fingered her a little, got her to do a little oral, and we do a lot of "dry" sex.

But I want to have sex with her. After speaking to her about sex, she says she doesn't know if she is ready. Also, she feels like she will be changed after having sex.

Anyway, how should I handle these comments? What are the best ways to respond?

I know that the most important thing is to make her comfortable, and I think I am doing that so far, but I am starting to get a little impatient.

 

[ARK]

I would like to see some response to this question because Im in the same boat. The woman Im seeing is also a virgin. This past weekend she told me that I was dangerous. That I am making her want to "renegotiate her previous negotiations with herself on waiting until she is married to have sex." I undid her bra and touched her breasts then we had dry sex again this weekend and when she stopped she told me sorry. Sorry that she stopped before it went further. She went on and said that weve only been dating for three months and we are further along physcially then she was with her bf at 2.5 years. At the same time she adds that she wants to do things with me.. a.k.a thats why Im dangerous.

 

[isotope]

ark how old is this girl



and you guys should consider not rushing her and respecting her decisions, find another girl if all you want to do is screw



ok that was the nice guy answer, heres the bad guy answer:
read the post "advanced techniques in seduction" by sir chancelot, it's in the bible

ttry to get her so hot she doesnt care anymore

and build enough trust with her, maybe start with fingering, build up to it.

 

[BrotherAP]

You have to be a sex god and make her want it so bad that she agrees to fvck you in the heat of the moment.

I'd like to relate my experience taking the virginity of a girl who intended to wait for marriage:

We had been dating for three months, and things had been progressing physically quite nicely. I was a virgin at the time, but naturally skilled, and every time we got together it was hotter and closer to full blown sex. Eventually, she starting moaning things like "I want to fvck you so bad!" when we'd be dry humping, or I'd be fingering her - whatever. So, I planned ahead and got some condoms. One time she said "I want to fvck you" so I grabbed a condom and showed it to her. I had her put it on me as a way of reassuring myself that she wanted to, and went for it. It hurt her extremely bad, and I had to go uncomfortably slow. After a couple minutes she said "Are we having sex?" (duh) and then bursted into a hysterical crying fit. From that day on, we'd often go to sex, and it always sucked because she'd 'feel guilty' afterwards anytime we did it.

It wasn't healthy for my sexual ego that sleeping with me (especially my first time) made a her cry :crackup:

My recommendation, therefore, is not to take the virginity of a girl who believes she should wait for marriage.

 

[paraguayandj]

its all in the words you use my friend

I remember I've being recently in the same situation. Well, it wasn't quite the same because I had sex with this virgin 2 days after I met her, but almost the same.
I couldn't believe that just by talking and saying profound stuff I convince her to do it.
Ok, kids take note:
I first showed her my hand and ask her:
Me: What do you see?
Girl: I see your hand (with an intriguing look). Why are you asking me that?
Me: Would you believe me if I were to told you that what you actually seeing are light reflections that come from my hand and are perceived and interpret by my brain throught my eyes as a hand.
Girl: I didn't know that.
Me: Yes, and I also guess you don't know that many people don't think about sex the way you think about sex. For some, sex is just an activity, something they do to ease up. That's the same way I think about it.
Girl: Well, yeah, but is my first time and I never thought I would just, you know, do it like that.
Me: Well, how did you imagined it to be?
Girl: I don't know,(long pause) you have no idea of the things that are going throught my mind right now.
Me: but you do have an idea of what's going to my mind right now.
Girl: Ok
Me: What? was that a yes?
Girl: yes
Me: What?
Girl: I said yes, now **** me.
Me: wow, well if you insist.

I'll leave the details to your imagination gentlemen, but now you have something that might help you brake that ice. Is called brainwashing. Just by talking you can accomplish wonderful things. You can talk about how the religious people brainwashed us, as to think that sex is a bad thing. You can talk about how sex is something so natural and nothing special, is necessary for procreation, and is the reason we all need to have sex and have the drive and desire for sex.
Women love this kind of stuff, trust me. Just read some philosophy and try to explain it to them. I works miracles, you won't believe your eyes, guaranteed.:rock:

Hope that help and school you a little bit in the art of persuading girls to have sex with you, it work for me so just try it.:yes:

 

[Luscious]

Sex will change your relationship, obviously.

You should be dating two girls - your current one, and one that puts out.

That allows you to be patient with the one that ain't hookin' you up.

Cruel, but effective.

 

[ARK]

Originally posted by isotope
ark how old is this girl

She would be 24.

 

[MidnightResistance]

Oh boy.

I can only wonder....is she that hot considering she's a virgin at 24?

Most likely she's more concerned that the first time hurts.
Lube yourself up and take the plunge.
It's gotta happen sooner or later.