I'm a moron

[Giantsfan88]

I set a date with girl. She said she'd confirm like always. I didn't hear from her until the day of. On the day of, she told me she felt weird coming to my house. I responded "Didn't think you were coming. I already made plans." She replied "Aw alright Happy Valentine's Day anyway"


We ended up having a conversation where she has a conflict of interest seeing me because of her place of business (bullsh1t) and I left it off well "let me know when you want to get together." She hasn't responded (2 days).


How did that make me sound?

Did it make me seem like I don't like her? Not confident?

Is this definitely unsalvageable?

How bad is it really?

I'm really getting crickets on this one...

I majorly failed her tests...

Was I a d1ck?

 

[Giantsfan88]

I'm going crazy over this right now... need some input...

 

[MillionBillionaire]

I had three flakes last week man.. cry me a river. This is all a part of the dating process.. stop caring soo damn much.

This week.. I plan on asking out a hot blonde bartender that has been giving me major iois and we have been clicking. I plan on asking her to the Ariana Grande concert.. i am soo excited for this.. I will see her and ask her on Thursday...

On Friday I have a tinder date....

Like I said last week I had three flakes... this week I pick myself up and dust myself off.

I am rrrreeeaaally excited to ask out this bartender tho... I dont give a fvck if she says no... but I cant imaginer her turning me down... love the game.. or hate it.. up to you.

 

[Giantsfan88]

No, I know that. I'm asking if me saying "Didn't think you were coming. I already made plans" made me sound like a phaggot. Like a sh1t test major failure...

 

[Starwolf]

Giantsfan88

why are you posting this? you already know what everyone here will tell you.

delete her and move on to the next!!

Setting up a date with a women should be met with a definitive "YES" from her end, nothing less.

If you are going to use the tactics for weeding out women who are flakes you have got to stop hoping for that she will magically change her mind and drop her panties for you.

The tactics are for Weeding out Low interest women. so you don't waste valuable time on them.

if you don't have the balls to drop these girls.. then don't use these tactics.

 

[Giantsfan88]

Giantsfan88

why are you posting this? you already know what everyone here will tell you.

delete her and move on to the next!!

Setting up a date with a women should be met with a definitive "YES" from her end, nothing less.

If you are going to use the tactics for weeding out women who are flakes you have got to stop hoping for that she will magically change her mind and drop her panties for you.

The tactics are for Weeding out Low interest women. so you don't waste valuable time on them.

if you don't have the balls to drop these girls.. then don't use these tactics.

It's not that black and white. This girl liked/hopefully could still like me. She invited me somewhere more appropriate (her performing an open mic where I could have shown genuine interest and raised hers) and I declined and invited her to my house. She's young and shy. She's not really a flake. She tested quite a bit. I pushed her to get in my house (ONLY SAW HER TWO TIMES) like a sex fiend moving way too fast and then said stupid sh1t ("didn't think you were coming") WTF

 

[Giantsfan88]

Giantsfan88

why are you posting this? you already know what everyone here will tell you.

delete her and move on to the next!!

Setting up a date with a women should be met with a definitive "YES" from her end, nothing less.

If you are going to use the tactics for weeding out women who are flakes you have got to stop hoping for that she will magically change her mind and drop her panties for you.

The tactics are for Weeding out Low interest women. so you don't waste valuable time on them.

if you don't have the balls to drop these girls.. then don't use these tactics.

Hopefully she'll drop those panties one day. Meanwhile I'ma game other chicks to drop em. I do want to salvage this though. She's not a concrete flake. Anybody think I still got a shot given variables?

 

[lover4721]

I think you responded pretty well.

I've seen someone on here actually say that line almost exactly -- with advice on what to tell her if she flakes.

I understand the over-thinking problems.

I'm like that, and many more people too.

Next time, why don't you take control and end the conversation? Allow time to set in so she is thinking the same way about you?

A lot of these guys on here will tell you that moving on is easy, etc. Not everyone know's exactly how YOU feel, so their advice doesn't really help.

I understand -- you wanted to get the greatest last message that converts the best, and wondering if you managed to do this correctly. She likes you -- maybe long-term - you don't want to drop her instantly - and you want other's to analyze the situation too, in hope that your beliefs will be confirmed.

Time man. Let time in and she will come back.
Stop trying so she starts to question if you found someone else.
Once you put her in that danger (losing you to some other woman), she might start to respond a little more better. A blog post somewhere mentioned that breaking up for couples and acquaintances can be pretty difficult. There is a lot of emotional pain. The one who leaves first (her) will have power over the relationship.
She could be pulling away from you because you might 'hurt' her. So really, that should make you superior.

I hope you see the point.

It's hard to tell you to move on when you have so many thoughts wondering if you did it right, just looking for motivation from other guys.
I am the same way. If you look on here, I met this woman once, watched movies at her house, and then went home and told her that I really liked her and wanted more.

I lost her. We went on a second date, she got so mad that we didn't do anything. She made pizza for herself. I sat there like a dumba$$. I asked so many people on here and on LoveShack if what I did was correct, motivation telling me to leave her (which everyone did!), etc.

So even if you don't see many people on here who knows what it feels like to constantly over-analyze things, you can know you're not alone and that I do the same damn thing!

However, I don't do that anymore. I've been pretty damn good... until this new chick comes along and we are getting closer into the relationship.
Now I over-think, and am actually starting to get jealous about something... something that has been gone since 2012.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Dude, you sound like you care waaaay too much.

Never think in terms of "passing" and "failing" sh!t tests. You don't pass them - you handle them. There's a big difference. One makes you reactive and a potential dancing monkey. The other flips the script, which is what we must always be doing.

Never think of pass/fail. Think "handle".

 

[Giantsfan88]

Dude, you sound like you care waaaay too much.

Never think in terms of "passing" and "failing" sh!t tests. You don't pass them - you handle them. There's a big difference. One makes you reactive and a potential dancing monkey. The other flips the script, which is what we must always be doing.

Never think of pass/fail. Think "handle".

I agree. This may sound abstract, but I don't "care" too much. I'm guilty of an over thinking/over pursuing habit. I get oneitis and don't act accordingly to the girl's interest level. Whenever I get it in my gut to pursue, in future situations (hopefully this one will be too) I won't do it. Not all girls are going to have high interest level to start but if you want them, you act accordingly to theirs and gradually raise it overtime. I feel more in touch with this concept. I resent myself for acting on my feeling to pursue rather than doing the opposite (nothing). I like a girl, I like a girl. There's so many but I see each one as an individual. And having oneitis is counterproductive to my cause.