Im a doorman now, how should I approach this lady who lives there?

[YoungSir4sho]

Yea I've been adoorman fo about awhile now. There's a lot of good lookin women in the building that I work at. The ? Is tho is since im a doorman and I would like to ask a certain lady out who lives there wat should I do?

She just moved to the buildin a few weeks ago n I kno she lives by herself. I say how u doin n good morning everytime she leaves for work. Also I word the night shift till early in the morning.

So should I write a memo wit my number n give it to her next time I see her which will b lata on today? Also im thinkin if I give notes to ladies of the buildin could I get in trouble n get fired because im tryin to talk to ladies in the buildin that I work at?

 

[Warrior74]

just do your freaking job man. if she stops and gives you some proper signals and conversation go for it....but if she doesn't why risk your job?

No notes.

 

[Unsure]

I say how u doin n good morning everytime she leaves for work. Also I word the night shift till early in the morning.

Isnt your job to say good morning..

 

[slickaz]

dude i hope ur not dissin his job...

coz i think guys that show courtesy and open doors etc in uniform to many gorgeous women that walk through probably have ALOT more opportunities to picking up girls than dudes stuck in high rise offices.

as for OP :

dude if you like the girl..say hi to her, and instead of just leaving it at HI miss X, ask her something, or compliment her on smtn shes wearing etc. and grab her attention for about 5 mins..if you find that shes reciprocating your call..let it go there.

next day talk for longer..
and eventually get her number when you find smtn in the conversation you know a bit about..

THE BEST WAY is to ask for the kind of music she likes..or the kind of dancing she likes..because "HER SHOES LOOK LIKE THEYRE BEING WORN BY A DANCER?...LATIN DANCE or BALLET"... and usually girls will come back with smtn like "Oh i used to go to salsa/ballet/etc classes(Girls have this thing since theyre kids to be dancers or angels, and you need to cash in on that)

when she says this, you find THE ABSOLUTE BEST most chilled out dance place in your city...and then tell her..
hey, you know i know a little bit of salsa/samba/etc (lie if you have to, dancing isnt that hard..) and i know this place that really goes off!..its kind of a spot where ppl let their hair down, very exclusive kind of place..we should go check it out..show me your moves.."

if she says no, then cool let it slide..
if she says yes..you're in...because she lives in your building, i dont think you really need to take the "phone number first" path..

ur lucky dude..you get to talk to different women everyday..keep us posted.

 

[YoungSir4sho]

Yea it is my job to say that which is y I don't kno when a girl has the sign of wanting to take it to that level. What I do kno n can tell is when their hellos n smile is real or fake.

N yea I don't wanna risk my job but I kno there's stories of doormen actually getting women from their building so I kno there's a way jus how n when should I is the ?

 

[slickaz]

read above your post son..
do yo thang..
just make sure you stay under radar from bosses, but also dont come on too strong incase she complains.. but otherwise u should be good..

but dont be too nice either..try and bring the conversation to her interests related to yours regarding going out somewhere..maybe she likes watchin the knicks? or some movie genre? n you could say hey..i know a good place..come with me on my day off..simple.

Try not to do notes, bcoz firstly that leaves physical proof.
secondly she may just throw it away, no woman sees the best of you in a note..

but try to conversate.
if you think bosses is watchin, then act like you're showing her somethinig..
but to grab her attention maybe compliment her on smtn..to get her close to you, then act like you're showin her smtn..she may think its romantic..lol..

im sure you'll find a way bru..where theres a way..theres will..lol..and you from queens..yall is crazy!..lol

 

[YoungSir4sho]

Yea good lookin out slickaz. Im sayin tho since im a doorman n there's cameras which means mad politics bs wit the director of boards in the building. Plus don't have a lot of time to talk to women since othas is walking by also.

Sum1 on here said don't do notes, anotha one on aim said yea try it out. Don't kno but ill firgue sumthin out.

 

[sprint]

Really, I just don't think you should bother. This is mainly because she sees you as "the doorman", not a potential date. Sure you may have a chance but I doubt it. Just go after women you meet outside of work. Trust me on this one.

 

[Maximus Rex]

Dude I not from exprience, DOORMEN JOBS ARE EXTREMELY HARD TO GET!!!! DON'T COMPROMISE YOUR JOB BEHIND A CHICK!!!!! Unless of course you don't like or care about your job.

Sarging chicks from the worksite can lead to a civil action against you, a sexual harrassment case, job termination or possibly all three. You live in NYC THERE'S LITERALLY HOT CHICKS ALL OVER THE PLACE!!! FOCUS ON THEM!!!!