"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ignoring her the day after the first approach, a good idea or bad idea?

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Would it be a good idea to ignore her the day after the first approach? I haven't tested it yet but I think it may work. It will cause her to think about you the entire day the next day and eagerly await you talking to her again. It will also suggest you don't worship her and can survive without her. On the other hand, the downside may be that she may be turned off what she says a flakey behavior. Your thoughts?

Edit: I am talking about a girl in your school/class and when I say "ignore" I mean not having a conversation with her the next day.
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Sean O

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Don't ignore her. That's just rude. Instead, just give her a "Hello" of some sort, but don't stop to have a conversation with her. I'm assuming you're talking about a girl in your school, btw.
 
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Yeah, that is what I meant (I was unclear though). A simple hello but no conversation.
 

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So you actually approach and don't get the number there, the first time?
 
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hmm...I guess the number thing could go either way. The main thing, imo, is to make a statement of intent (i.e. "so not only are you attractive but you have a great sense of humor" after she makes a joke) that shows your interest at a high point in the initial conversation. Then "ignore" her the next day and return the following day, perhaps setting up the date then.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Porky

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uh, what?

if you don't talk to her, chances are she won't notice or care.

build some lasting rapport with her. never ignore her, but make sure she understands that you don't need her.
 
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