Ignore them and they will come running..

[Egoist]

Ok so I am sort of friends with this HB8.5. I met her during my sort of busy/depressed phase, and sort of kept her around as a possible future ****buddy. Didn't **** her yet, but just hung out a couple times when i didn't have anything better to do.

She is totally the ice queen/golddigger type, but unlike most of the guys she knows, i never acted like a dog with my tail wagging around her, always put her in her place when she acted like a golddigger, etc. And I remained a mystery to her, like she is still confused about what i do, how i'm so cool (LOL) and so on. For all i know she thinks im a secret agent or a drug dealer.

Anyways, so she wanted me to come to her birthday, bring her gifts - well i ignored her, and then i got busy with other **** and forgot about her.

A week or two passes.. She starts calling me and leaving me messages, asking me how I am, acting like she really misses me..

And this is not the first time it happened like that with a chick. Works every single time for me, the more you act like you don't care, the more they want you. Like another chick i havent talked to in a couple weeks saw me online yesterday and messaged me something to the extent "im tired and studying, bring me some coffee, i can use a good ****"

Oh yeah, and I pretty much could have f-closed her a while ago, but didn't for a couple reasons.

Disclaimer: i wouldn't do this with every chick, but for some it works really well. Just use your judgement. If your dreamgirl is all into you and you think you might have a chance to get her, ****-ing close her now, don't ignore her, you might not have a chance later. Little sluts you just consider for ****buddies, however, are great candidate.

 

[Marlimus]

True. But overexpressed. The idea that ignoring the girls who get attention gets their attention is old. No offense, but this post is redundant.

 

[dyce]

yea no offence man but this advice is played

i mean it works and all, but maybe you should post ur story of succeeding as more of.. well.. a story, rather than a tip

props anyway

 

[Hound_of_Love]

Hmmm...I find myself in this situation right now.

Met this girl a long while back. She was probably a HB6 back then but she was cool and we shared interests, so we got friendly. I went away for a while, came back, she'd turned into an HB8 in a caterpillar-butterfly stylee. So I made a play for her and fvcked up royally. She was into some other guy and she's the type to obsess about one at a time.

Now, I hate to lose, but I know a waste of time when I see one, so I wrote her off.

It was harsh because we were pretty good friends and she's a shy girl, so she doesn't make friends easily - but I know that I couldn't really be friends with a girl when I'm thinking of her naked all the time.

Ignored her.

Ignored her.

...

Now, about 4 months later, I'm getting silly, irrelevant texts from her. So I thought to myself, it's now or never.

There's a big meet up between a bunch of mutual friends and acquaintances coming up in another town and I was organising a hotel for some of us, so I dropped in casually to her that if she wanted to join us, I could arrange another space. She said she'd check with work.

Now she's saying she's not sure if she can come.

I'm not sure if this is a shyt test of some sort - an effort to get me to beg her - or if she's just gone back to her flakey ways.

I'm just playing a "come-or-don't-come-not bothered" game at the mo'. See where it goes.

 

[Egoist]

ok ok guys, i didnt even mean this to come off as an advice, just another practical confirmation

 

[qweretyuiopas]

I ignore them and I get nowhere

 

[Egoist]

Originally posted by qweretyuiopas
I ignore them and I get nowhere

well you have to somehow attract their interest first and give them something they can miss, duh..

you cant just be like "oh, she probably never noticed me, so i'm just gonna ignore her, and thats going to make her want me" :crackup:

 

[qweretyuiopas]

Originally posted by Egoist
well you have to somehow attract their interest first and give them something they can miss, duh..

I do that man and it doesnt work

 

[Egoist]

Originally posted by qweretyuiopas
I do that man and it doesnt work

honestly, i dont think you do. at least you're not doing what you should be?

what do you do that they will miss??

 

[qweretyuiopas]

Originally posted by Egoist
honestly, i dont think you do. at least you're not doing what you should be?

what do you do that they will miss??

Its not just 1 thing in particular its how Iam Im a naturally funny guy and kind of a smartass I am naturally ****y and funny and girls like me for it. I always leave on a high note, but I have not had 1 girlfriend before I havent even kissed a girl. I know Im a huge wimp but still...

 

[SparkleMotion]

It's just cat-stringing them.

Hell, I ignore girls all the time. But that a lone won't get you laid. You have to gain their attraction first.

 

[qweretyuiopas]

Originally posted by SparkleMotion
It's just cat-stringing them.

Hell, I ignore girls all the time. But that a lone won't get you laid. You have to gain their attraction first.

I thought i did!

 

[Egoist]

confirmed in the field yesterday once again...

but yeah, you have to demonstrate values and elicit interest first..

 

[Sp1kez]

I do this....but when you DO not ignore them and get together even for ONE time, then they'll start ignoring you and LJBFing you!

 

[Egoist]

Re: Indifference instead of ignore

Originally posted by Jcrew
I think you guys are misconstruing the word "Ignore", for "indifference." This means approach her, but also approach other women in her presence. Make her feel like she doesnt turn you on. Then she will love you! The ignore approach doesnt work if you arent getting other girls. Being approachable and charming among the women is best approach because you treat them all the same. Women love competition and a challenge. They want to break in the wild stallion!

a chick literally told me yesterday " i love a challenge"

the more of a ****y demanding ******* i was to her, the more she was into me..