ignore her or confront her?????

[decipher2888]

this chic that i had been seeing a couple of months ago.. (although we werent exclusive) played me badly... she first led me into believing dat she was preety serious about me n how she had alaways been in love with me ...she even said that she had feelings for me while she was dating another guy..although i didnt like her then.

however once we started dating it went preety smooth the first 2 months and then she started playing these mind games .... i was too naive to realize wat was happening... i tried to win her back and she eventually gave me the ljbf speech... i did run around for sometym n finally let go.. i got bored chasing aftr her

its been like 6 months now .. n i am over her.. however i recently discovered that she had been telling our common friends how she never really dated me and how i was the one who was desperate for her.... this really got me infuriated ... and i dont want to loose respect infront of my friends and dont want to be seen in bad light in front of them.....

so shud i confront this ***** and ask her to clear things out..... or should i pay no heed to all the **** she has been blabbering????? .... need ur suggestion brothers!!!

 

[decipher2888]

she sounds like she has a personality disorder. Dont confront, she will escalate the game. They love drama.

thanx bro... i was thinking on the same lines.....its better to leave her alone

 

[decipher2888]

Your number one problem going forward is ego-based. You don't want to lose respect in front of your friends - you don't want your image to be ruined. The only thing is that this image does not actually exist..so let it go. Don't waste your time worrying about what people think of you or how you are perceived. You'll actually look much worse in front of your friends if you try to protect your image rather than just not caring.

And I agree with the guy above me...ignore the comment. You were desperate...just accept it and move on. The key word is were...people are constantly changing - our personalities are dynamic. That's why attempting to protect your image is so pointless....you are never the same person you were a year, month, or even week ago.

Also, I'd like to add...don't view this girl in a negative light. Don't harbor ill-will or angry thoughts towards her - give her love (i.e. be nice to her) BUT not in an attempt to hook up with her or anything...just be nice. If you do...you'll notice something strange will happen. When you're genuinely nice to people, by which I mean you just inject happiness into their life without wanting something in return (such as pvssy), people will actually be much less apt to say things like this girl did about you. The best way of gaming is to just be nice to everyone...without wanting anything in return, genuinely.

i understand the point you are trying to make dude....... but the thing that bothers me is..... i stopped contact with her after she made it clear she needs "space"...... i dont talk about her... and she should not talk about me too.....
and besides i dont want to be a seen as a sissy who cant stand uop for himself when a chic goes around talking **** about him

 

[runner83]

Yeah, I don't really see any benefit in trying to argue with her about it. From the sound of it, she'll just get off on the drama.

Best thing to do is ignore it, move on and it will die out soon enough.