Ignorance Really Must be Bliss

[jaymbrs]

Another one bites the dust. I find I'm leaving bad and/or toxic situations because of my wit, experience, ability to forecast, etc. Some of these women have their great qualities but I just can't get over the bad ones that lead to huge fights and jeopardize a future. Call it being smart or whatever but man after awhile it feels like it gets old to the point where I start doing some self reflection and second guess myself. But in the end, I try to leave emotions out of my logic (give myself some time to think) and even seek the advice of close friends and it seems I'm making the right decisions. But at 35, I'm starting to get concerned and bothered by starting over with another woman. It's a lot of work.

 

[Serenity]

Ignorance certainly is not bliss when it comes to being ignorant towards the bad qualities of a woman. Maybe at first it's bliss, but you'll pay a lot more for it later, figuratively and probably literally speaking too.

Only when you want to find the flaws that could jeopardize the future, but find none after extensive scrutiny should you seriously consider committing. Until then you should make peace with the thought that you may never run into this woman and be prepared to find enjoyment in life without such companionship.

You're making the right choice. Caving to the pressure of finding a lifepartner is when people make mistakes and go against their better judgement. It's better to be single than to fvck yourself in the future by making short sighted decisions today.

 

[jaymbrs]

I know the feeling. It's frustrating. I really do try to bend the rules too, but doesn't make a difference.

What rules do you try to bend?

Ignorance certainly is not bliss when it comes to being ignorant towards the bad qualities of a woman. Maybe at first it's bliss, but you'll pay a lot more for it later, figuratively and probably literally speaking too.

Only when you want to find the flaws that could jeopardize the future, but find none after extensive scrutiny should you seriously consider committing. Until then you should make peace with the thought that you may never run into this woman and be prepared to find enjoyment in life without such companionship.

You're making the right choice. Caving to the pressure of finding a lifepartner is when people make mistakes and go against their better judgement. It's better to be single than to fvck yourself in the future by making short sighted decisions today.

And I've seen many people do this. Some are still together, some not. Those who are together aren't exactly happy. I really am thinking that a life partner is not realistic anymore. I really do get bored or agitated with some of the women who I keep around for about 6+ months. There are highs and lows, but man when those lows hit, I tend to hit the eject button and try to move on to something else. The world is just too big.

 

[darksprezzatura]

Ignorance certainly is not bliss when it comes to being ignorant towards the bad qualities of a woman. Maybe at first it's bliss, but you'll pay a lot more for it later, figuratively and probably literally speaking too.

Only when you want to find the flaws that could jeopardize the future, but find none after extensive scrutiny should you seriously consider committing. Until then you should make peace with the thought that you may never run into this woman and be prepared to find enjoyment in life without such companionship.

You're making the right choice. Caving to the pressure of finding a lifepartner is when people make mistakes and go against their better judgement. It's better to be single than to fvck yourself in the future by making short sighted decisions today.

Bump. Great share.

If I court women with the agenda to find flaws, the whole process becomes draining and boring.

Instead I try to maximise my options in number and quality. The flaws expose themselves and the women weed themselves out.

I find that spinning multiple women is a good way to expose flaws and sidestep the "love goggles".

As a corollary, commitment is a gamble and it's futile to consider being "sure enough" about the future, as risks never tend to 0.

The way ahead is spinning plates for life. However farfetched it sounds.

 

[Serenity]

If I court women with the agenda to find flaws, the whole process becomes draining and boring.

The flaws expose themselves and the women weed themselves out.

I will have to clarify that by extensive scrutiny I didn't mean playing stupid games to impatiently put her to the test, I meant to be aware and observant about the flaws. Some situations are a natural test of trust and those are the moments we can learn the most about a woman. Some men take notes while others stick their head in the sand thinking "it's probably fine".

I find that spinning multiple women is a good way to expose flaws and sidestep the "love goggles".

I decided to free my mind without relying on external crutches, but yeah this works too. The point is finding a way to remain objective in the face of your own emotions pulling you against better knowing. You can solve the problem at the source by strengthening your rationality or treat the symptoms by numbing emotions. I would compare your method to taking painkillers, takes away the symptoms, but it doesn't fix the cause of it.

 

[The Duke]

I noticed that when I finally approached dating like women do I ending up better off. I was less tolerant of negative issues, more selective, less invested. I didn't care what transpired, because there were always 2-3 others on deck.