"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If you're a stud, don't be so ****y on approach

white_hype

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i agree, i consider myself good looking (others have said this too, not trying to sound ****y) and whenever i approach girls like i am all CF and act like i dont care they will reject me (maybe i overdo the CF, im not sure) but when i tone it down a little and act more "real" they are MUCH more receptive.

I've also done this TO girls. Ive had soem good looking ones come up to me, or talk to me when im talking toa group of girls and i can just tell she is trying to act all cool like she is doing me a favor by talking to me. I have a problem with letting girls think they have the "power" or any type of edge on me (i have a big ego.. need to work on this) and i have been rude to them even though i know if i would have worked it, i could have developed into something (a number or hookup).

very interesting, thx for post
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Oh, and C+F doesn't work when they can't hear what you're saying. That's why clubs aren't the best spot... it's best when it completely juxtaposes the environment you're in. I'm good looking, girls approach me but I still use it.
 

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As a good looking guy, you are easily labelled as unapproachable.
that is why ****y does not work.

And its a bigger hit if you get labelled as needy by acting too eager.

what I've noticed for me, best thing that works is show a genuine interest in the girl, not care about the number, have fun while interacting, and being ready to let go, while maintaining interest in the human she is.

This is me. It works for me.

another thing which works is this mindset:

"Even though you are the girl for me in this bar, and no other girl can compete with you, I do not need you. I want you, and I will screw your brains out. And if I don't, WTF..."

this is sexual talk and action from the beginning, and by giving her the feeling, she is unique, but not necessary, it takes her away from the feeling that she is just another check in your book.


****y, backfires heavily on studs. You are an *******, a player, a man*****, etc etc, all of which you are, at some point anyway.

"I am hot, you are hot, but that is not enough"

Is also good....


****y and funny works for average guys.


but once the girl put her hands on your sixpack, and you go ****y, you ****block yourself.



Ah,

And one thing, a girl who will get EGO shoot by rejecting me, is indeed, a needy low self esteem *****.

the EGO shoot is gotten by being by my side.

That is the requirement.


Cheers.
 
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